How Did the World Get So Wrapped Up in Being Identified by Our Sexuality?

It used to be that people were just that, people. Sure, some were straight, some were gay, some bisexual, and a few were “other”… but with the rise of organizations like LGBTQ now, more than ever before, we are self-identifying by our sexual orientation/identification like it’s some kind of girl scout badge to be earned.


Aren’t these the very same people who clearly stated they DIDN’T want to be labeled?

No matter who you are, what category you feel you fall into and identify as, you are so much more than that.

Why does your sexual preference need to define you as a person?

It’s a wonderful thing in this world to have support – to have friends who are like minded and accepting. I am not by any means shunning LGBTQ, but isn’t it strange to stick yourself in a box when the point was to come out of the closet?

Everyone has the right to be themselves fully. It is no one else’s business really what anyone else’s sexual proclivities are unless they are considering sleeping with them themselves.

I personally feel like somehow, accidentally, in forging the way to openness we created a very much non needed divide, pushing pronouns that aren’t actually correct in the English language on society and then condemning the “non-accepter” as non-allies if they don’t go along with it.

Especially when it really isn’t the case. In fact, that is now being non accepting in the opposing direction. Ironic. Especially when the condemnation comes from people who don’t even bother to ask what you are and make assumptions.

We are making things more complicated than they really need to be.


Are you a good person? Honest? Fun? Interesting? Great – you qualify to be my friend.

Can we all just get back to being simply “ourselves” now?

Becoming your true self

We live in a people pleasing world. We are taught from a very young age to conform to societal standards of acceptability. We are systematically assigned lessons based on our current age and what we are slated to learn and shuffled through years of education and indoctrination in order and in hopes that we come out the other side of it, productive members of society.

It is left as the responsibility of the parents to encourage their child’s uniqueness to grow and shine. But what if you didn’t happen to grow up in a family where your individuality was encouraged?

What if you made it all the way to adulthood, and still aren’t sure who you are? It sure makes life a lot more difficult.

Getting to really know, appreciate and love yourself is one of the most important gifts you can give yourself. Taking time alone or setting aside days to focus on your own mental and emotional health is vital.

We are, after all, the one and only person who is absolutely guaranteed to be with us our whole life. No matter who comes or go, acquaintance, friend, family member or love, you remain. The more you know and genuinely accept and like yourself the more comfortable you will be not only with yourself but in the presence of others.

Living a happy joyous existence can only happen if you are true to yourself. Follow your feelings, beliefs, and ideals. Say yes when you mean yes, and no when you really mean no. Live without fear of the judgment of others knowing the opinion that really counts in the end when it comes you your life, is you.

You don’t have to make the journey alone. Monarch Wellness offers a whole array of classes geared towards self-exploration and self-growth. Their caring guides and therapists offer the chance to safely explore and push the bounds to test and really find out who you are at a core level.

If you are interested in learning more please visit www.monarchwellness.net and peruse their class schedule.

Originally Published: http://monarchwellness.net/2017/01/becoming-your-true-self/