Not getting what you want is sometimes a blessing in disguise

Stop for a moment to imagine what your life would be like if you got everything you had ever wanted. At first thought, I am sure that makes you smile pretty widely. I mean, who doesn’t want everything they have ever wanted, right?


I can almost guarantee you don’t.


Think back over the course of your life. Start with wishes from childhood.


“I wish I didn’t have to learn math”, “I wish my parents would stay together”, “I wish I never had homework.” Even with just those 3 simple requests – Where would that have landed you? You wouldn’t be as smart or capable as you are now because you learned math and did your homework and you may have grown up in a household with more arguing in it than need be.


Now progress to your teen years – “I wish (insert first boyfriends name here) would be in love with me forever and we would never part”, or say someone did something to hurt you and you wished them ill will… Had those come true you could have damaged someone else’s life and you would still be with the first boy you dated, regardless of how he grew (or didn’t).


As an adult, we make many decrees on things we want and desire. “I want to get a certain job”, “I want to marry this person”, “I want my parents to live forever”. But what if, by getting ‘that’ job, you missed the really right for you job that popped up just after you were turned down for that one? What if you did marry the guy or girl you felt to be of your dreams, yet missed your soul mate because of it? And what if your parents lived forever, but because of that wish it was really too long for their bodies and they were in terrible or terminal health?


There is a lot to be said for allowing the balance of what you desire to be tempered by divine guidance. Sometimes what we want just isn’t in the plan for us nor is it in our long-term best and highest interest.


Sometimes, not getting what we want at that time in hindsight turns out to be just what we really needed all along.


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How to come from a place of abundance when you have nothing

Article originally Published for : Alberta Street News

“The true measure of a man is how much he would be worth if he lost everything.” – Unknown.

Your worth and value doesn’t come from the car you drive, what you have or where you live. It is inherent, intrinsic, and cannot be taken from you. It is reflected in your character, the way you live your life and the way you treat other people.

I have seen numerous YouTube videos lately where events are staged to look like someone is out on the street and down on their luck or having a hard time where they really need some help out in public. I have been highly disappointed in the vast majority who just walk on by, ignoring them, even when the person has been face down in the middle of a busy sidewalk.

Many of the bystanders who actually do come to the aid of that person have been homeless themselves and have the very least to give (monetarily). What does this say about our society?

Have many of us become so jaded that we can’t see what is right in front of us; our fellow human beings in need of help. Is it that we don’t care? Don’t feel one person can make a difference? I don’t really have an answer for that.

What I do know is that we are all connected. Treating someone as if they do not matter is unacceptable. Everyone matters. We need to stop judging on appearance. Look past the surface; clothing, hair, skin color, or whatever it is that is keeping us back from looking into that persons eyes and seeing another living breathing human being.

This is a two-sided coin.


On the other side of that, how do you deal with people when you don’t have a place to call home or sometimes even food to eat? Feeling badly or ashamed of your situation or worse about yourself, won’t help things. Our current situations in life are always an echo. They are a combination manifestation of our past thoughts, actions and happenstance. Dwelling on it will likely push that echo on to the future and get you more of the same.

Breaking free of this cycle isn’t an easy thing to do, for any of us, and being in a bad situation currently does make it harder so please don’t think I am discounting that.

Acceptance of where you are now is the first step because the fact is – you are where you are regardless of what you think or how you feel about it. Take a good look around you. Life is all about perspective no matter what you do or don’t have. Rich or poor. They both are a state of mind that projects outwardly and into your reality. Take stock of what you do have that is good in your life. Friends, Family, a pet, a nice place to rest, a sunny day, anything that brings even the slightest joy to your life. Focus on that which makes you feel good or even a little bit better. Do your best to ignore the rest. The truth is that when you live in gratitude for what you already have, however perceived little it may be, more will come into your life to be grateful for.

All of us are infinitely valuable, more so than we realize. We all individually have the power to touch someone’s life. Make sure you do so in a positive way, even if it’s just with a smile or kind word.