Life Isn’t a Contest

Keeping up with the Joneses has become a national pass time. Bigger, better, faster, more – we are a living in a consumeristic society. Materialism has taken hold and become a staple especially in the younger generations.

How much do you really need and why?

Basic needs come down to food and shelter. There are over half a million homeless in the United States alone in 2019. It seems like we need a reality check some times. If you have a job, a car, a home (rented or not), food to eat, and clothes to wear – Yes, you are blessed.

Beyond the basics

Once we have our basic needs covered, it is human nature to want more. We all want money to upgrade all of the basic necessities, to travel and enjoy life, to take care of our health and wellbeing. There is nothing wrong with working hard and enjoying the fruits of your labors. The American dream has long been a self sustaining abundant life.

More and more though it feels like many are not appreciative or grateful for everything they have. They run around comparing their lives to everyone else’s. When they don’t match up or exceed, sometimes they fall in to the trap of feeling not good enough, which leads to depression. To judge based on outside appearances only gives a false reading.

“The true measure of a man is how much he would be worth if he lost everything.”

We have some how propagated the idea that the one who accumulates the most and dies with the most toys wins. Im not knocking money, having money, or being rich. I am fully in favor of all three. What I am knocking is the idea that more money makes you a better person or guarantees that you have a better life.

Fact is there are plenty of depressed miserable people in every tax bracket.

Where Joy Comes From

The simple answer is within. Rather than focusing on what you don’t have, try flipping the script and focus on what you do have – what you are happy for, what you appreciate, your health if you have it, your friends, family, your pets, anything that makes you feel good at any level.

Like attracts like. Opposites do not attract, at least not on a vibrational level. When you give your attention to something you bring in more of it – good or bad. If you focus on always being broke… chances are that streak will continue. Stop it.

When you stop and look around and realize that your life isn’t a contest and the destination isn’t the end all be all, the beauty is in the NOW. It makes it easier to realize you are likely doing better than you may have thought.

At the end of life, no one says “Oh I wish I had worked more” They say “I wish I had spent more time taking a breath, appreciating the little things, and actually saying yes to experiences”.

There is only one you. You are living a life no one else will ever get to live and experience. Make it your own and enjoy it

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Have you fallen out of Gratitude Mode?

I found myself today feeling down in the dumps. Looking at my bills and my overall financial picture and started in on the “if onlys”. The fact is that you can’t change past happenings or decisions. You can only go from here.

 

I feel bad because I don’t feel like I am where I “should be”. The question is, according to what or who? I know darn well that there are no accidents in life. You are always exactly where you are meant to be at any given moment.

 

As kids, from that perspective, we all believed that adults had it together. The truth is, almost no one really has it all together. I am even suspicious that there really is such a thing as an adult at all. What I see is everyone muddling through life, making the best decisions that they can and hoping for the best possible outcome.

 

With all of that said, this blah attitude I found myself in today made me realize my problem. It’s not that anything is wrong. It’s the perspective has shifted. Somehow, I have fallen out of Gratitude Mode. Rather than looking around and appreciating everything that I have in my world, I have gotten focused on the little bit of lack that is there.

 

This is a very dangerous slope to be on. Like attracts like and if you are focused on lack, more will be coming.

 

So, if you also see yourself in what you just read… take my advice I am giving myself and snap the hell out of it.

 

Love,
Sarah

Not getting what you want is sometimes a blessing in disguise

Stop for a moment to imagine what your life would be like if you got everything you had ever wanted. At first thought, I am sure that makes you smile pretty widely. I mean, who doesn’t want everything they have ever wanted, right?

 

I can almost guarantee you don’t.

 

Think back over the course of your life. Start with wishes from childhood.

 

“I wish I didn’t have to learn math”, “I wish my parents would stay together”, “I wish I never had homework.” Even with just those 3 simple requests – Where would that have landed you? You wouldn’t be as smart or capable as you are now because you learned math and did your homework and you may have grown up in a household with more arguing in it than need be.

 

Now progress to your teen years – “I wish (insert first boyfriends name here) would be in love with me forever and we would never part”, or say someone did something to hurt you and you wished them ill will… Had those come true you could have damaged someone else’s life and you would still be with the first boy you dated, regardless of how he grew (or didn’t).

 

As an adult, we make many decrees on things we want and desire. “I want to get a certain job”, “I want to marry this person”, “I want my parents to live forever”. But what if, by getting ‘that’ job, you missed the really right for you job that popped up just after you were turned down for that one? What if you did marry the guy or girl you felt to be of your dreams, yet missed your soul mate because of it? And what if your parents lived forever, but because of that wish it was really too long for their bodies and they were in terrible or terminal health?

 

There is a lot to be said for allowing the balance of what you desire to be tempered by divine guidance. Sometimes what we want just isn’t in the plan for us nor is it in our long-term best and highest interest.

 

Sometimes, not getting what we want at that time in hindsight turns out to be just what we really needed all along.

 

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Originally Posted: http://monarchwellness.net/2017/04/not-getting-what-you-want-is-sometimes-a-blessing-in-disguise/

How to come from a place of abundance when you have nothing

Article originally Published for : Alberta Street News

“The true measure of a man is how much he would be worth if he lost everything.” – Unknown.

Your worth and value doesn’t come from the car you drive, what you have or where you live. It is inherent, intrinsic, and cannot be taken from you. It is reflected in your character, the way you live your life and the way you treat other people.

I have seen numerous YouTube videos lately where events are staged to look like someone is out on the street and down on their luck or having a hard time where they really need some help out in public. I have been highly disappointed in the vast majority who just walk on by, ignoring them, even when the person has been face down in the middle of a busy sidewalk.

Many of the bystanders who actually do come to the aid of that person have been homeless themselves and have the very least to give (monetarily). What does this say about our society?

Have many of us become so jaded that we can’t see what is right in front of us; our fellow human beings in need of help. Is it that we don’t care? Don’t feel one person can make a difference? I don’t really have an answer for that.

What I do know is that we are all connected. Treating someone as if they do not matter is unacceptable. Everyone matters. We need to stop judging on appearance. Look past the surface; clothing, hair, skin color, or whatever it is that is keeping us back from looking into that persons eyes and seeing another living breathing human being.

This is a two-sided coin.

 

On the other side of that, how do you deal with people when you don’t have a place to call home or sometimes even food to eat? Feeling badly or ashamed of your situation or worse about yourself, won’t help things. Our current situations in life are always an echo. They are a combination manifestation of our past thoughts, actions and happenstance. Dwelling on it will likely push that echo on to the future and get you more of the same.

Breaking free of this cycle isn’t an easy thing to do, for any of us, and being in a bad situation currently does make it harder so please don’t think I am discounting that.

Acceptance of where you are now is the first step because the fact is – you are where you are regardless of what you think or how you feel about it. Take a good look around you. Life is all about perspective no matter what you do or don’t have. Rich or poor. They both are a state of mind that projects outwardly and into your reality. Take stock of what you do have that is good in your life. Friends, Family, a pet, a nice place to rest, a sunny day, anything that brings even the slightest joy to your life. Focus on that which makes you feel good or even a little bit better. Do your best to ignore the rest. The truth is that when you live in gratitude for what you already have, however perceived little it may be, more will come into your life to be grateful for.

All of us are infinitely valuable, more so than we realize. We all individually have the power to touch someone’s life. Make sure you do so in a positive way, even if it’s just with a smile or kind word.