Life Isn’t a Contest

Keeping up with the Joneses has become a national pass time. Bigger, better, faster, more – we are a living in a consumeristic society. Materialism has taken hold and become a staple especially in the younger generations.

How much do you really need and why?

Basic needs come down to food and shelter. There are over half a million homeless in the United States alone in 2019. It seems like we need a reality check some times. If you have a job, a car, a home (rented or not), food to eat, and clothes to wear – Yes, you are blessed.

Beyond the basics

Once we have our basic needs covered, it is human nature to want more. We all want money to upgrade all of the basic necessities, to travel and enjoy life, to take care of our health and wellbeing. There is nothing wrong with working hard and enjoying the fruits of your labors. The American dream has long been a self sustaining abundant life.

More and more though it feels like many are not appreciative or grateful for everything they have. They run around comparing their lives to everyone else’s. When they don’t match up or exceed, sometimes they fall in to the trap of feeling not good enough, which leads to depression. To judge based on outside appearances only gives a false reading.

“The true measure of a man is how much he would be worth if he lost everything.”

We have some how propagated the idea that the one who accumulates the most and dies with the most toys wins. Im not knocking money, having money, or being rich. I am fully in favor of all three. What I am knocking is the idea that more money makes you a better person or guarantees that you have a better life.

Fact is there are plenty of depressed miserable people in every tax bracket.

Where Joy Comes From

The simple answer is within. Rather than focusing on what you don’t have, try flipping the script and focus on what you do have – what you are happy for, what you appreciate, your health if you have it, your friends, family, your pets, anything that makes you feel good at any level.

Like attracts like. Opposites do not attract, at least not on a vibrational level. When you give your attention to something you bring in more of it – good or bad. If you focus on always being broke… chances are that streak will continue. Stop it.

When you stop and look around and realize that your life isn’t a contest and the destination isn’t the end all be all, the beauty is in the NOW. It makes it easier to realize you are likely doing better than you may have thought.

At the end of life, no one says “Oh I wish I had worked more” They say “I wish I had spent more time taking a breath, appreciating the little things, and actually saying yes to experiences”.

There is only one you. You are living a life no one else will ever get to live and experience. Make it your own and enjoy it

How to come from a place of abundance when you have nothing

Article originally Published for : Alberta Street News

“The true measure of a man is how much he would be worth if he lost everything.” – Unknown.

Your worth and value doesn’t come from the car you drive, what you have or where you live. It is inherent, intrinsic, and cannot be taken from you. It is reflected in your character, the way you live your life and the way you treat other people.

I have seen numerous YouTube videos lately where events are staged to look like someone is out on the street and down on their luck or having a hard time where they really need some help out in public. I have been highly disappointed in the vast majority who just walk on by, ignoring them, even when the person has been face down in the middle of a busy sidewalk.

Many of the bystanders who actually do come to the aid of that person have been homeless themselves and have the very least to give (monetarily). What does this say about our society?

Have many of us become so jaded that we can’t see what is right in front of us; our fellow human beings in need of help. Is it that we don’t care? Don’t feel one person can make a difference? I don’t really have an answer for that.

What I do know is that we are all connected. Treating someone as if they do not matter is unacceptable. Everyone matters. We need to stop judging on appearance. Look past the surface; clothing, hair, skin color, or whatever it is that is keeping us back from looking into that persons eyes and seeing another living breathing human being.

This is a two-sided coin.

 

On the other side of that, how do you deal with people when you don’t have a place to call home or sometimes even food to eat? Feeling badly or ashamed of your situation or worse about yourself, won’t help things. Our current situations in life are always an echo. They are a combination manifestation of our past thoughts, actions and happenstance. Dwelling on it will likely push that echo on to the future and get you more of the same.

Breaking free of this cycle isn’t an easy thing to do, for any of us, and being in a bad situation currently does make it harder so please don’t think I am discounting that.

Acceptance of where you are now is the first step because the fact is – you are where you are regardless of what you think or how you feel about it. Take a good look around you. Life is all about perspective no matter what you do or don’t have. Rich or poor. They both are a state of mind that projects outwardly and into your reality. Take stock of what you do have that is good in your life. Friends, Family, a pet, a nice place to rest, a sunny day, anything that brings even the slightest joy to your life. Focus on that which makes you feel good or even a little bit better. Do your best to ignore the rest. The truth is that when you live in gratitude for what you already have, however perceived little it may be, more will come into your life to be grateful for.

All of us are infinitely valuable, more so than we realize. We all individually have the power to touch someone’s life. Make sure you do so in a positive way, even if it’s just with a smile or kind word.

 

 

 

Homelessness is not a disease

How would you feel? Down to your last dollar, no money for rent, no place to keep your possessions – what you have left anyway, and no one to turn to who will help you. Out on the street.

Strangers that once smiled at you as you pass by now look away purposefully out of uncomfortability and shame. You are now a non-person. Looked at as some how a lesser being. Are you not the same person you were a few months ago? You are – but that’s not what people now see.

Why won’t they look at you? – Fear? Disgust? Anger? Do they think you are lazy? That you did this purposefully as a life choice? Or are they afraid that someday it might be them? There is no way to know for sure and everyone has his or her own individual reaction to the homeless.

Economic times are tight… Many of us are just squeaking by as it is, even if fully employed. We cannot always help as much as our hearts tell us too. For many the easiest way around that is to avoid dealing with them all together.

 Don’t look at them and they don’t exist – right?

Doesn’t work that way. They are there and they are real. They need help.

Every act of kindness will help to raise the vibration of this world from selfishness and greed to one of generosity and strength. If you have an extra dollar, share. If you don’t – at the very least make eye contact and smile like you would any other person.

Dignity doesn’t carry a price tag.

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