Your Self Awareness Guide

  1. The Whys?

Ask yourself why you are making the decision you are… what is your motivation? Often we make snap decisions without really understanding the basis behind them. Take the time to understand what drives you and your choices.

 

  1. STOP

When faced with a choice or decision, it often feels like the response should be immediate. Look before you leap is a wise old adage. Before reacting, just stop. Pause. Wait… simmer a bit. This helps you to remain at cause rather than ending up at the mercy of effect.

 

  1. Explain

Practice articulating how you feel without placing blame on others. When you remain responsible for your choices and actions, you retain the power.

 

  1. Deny

Mastering self-control is vital. Say “No” to yourself sometimes. Work on refusing temptations which do not benefit you, and especially any that could cause harm.

 

  1. Play Lawyer

Or Devil’s Advocate – flip the script and see things from an opposing view. Sometimes this can help open your perspective or even strengthen the view already held.

 

  1. Take Responsibility

Hold yourself accountable for your actions, flaws, mistakes and consequences of actions. Breaking agreements, even with yourself can be damaging to the psyche.

 

  1. Enough with the negative self-talk!

Just stop it. Drop the critical commentary. Celebrate your wins and forgive yourself any perceived failures. Most failures are simply lessons – we learn and next time are better prepared.

 

  1. Find a Mentor

Feedback is vital. Find someone whose opinion you respect and let them help guide you.

 

  1. What is your body saying?

Are you aware of your body? Do you notice your own stance, posture, gate and hand gestures? What are the conveying to others? Simple things like standing up straight, meeting someone’s gaze or not crossing your arms gives you an aura of confidence and assurance. In turn, you tend to feel more that way as well.

 

  1. Know ThySelf

What are your strong points, skills, gifts and talents? What are your weaker areas? Play to your strengths and minimize the weaknesses or if you are so inclined, work on them to become stronger.

 

  1. Evaluate

Take an honest look at yourself on every level. Spiritual, emotional, mental, physical. Keep track of your progress as this is sure to change over time.

 

  1. Meditation

It can be a challenge to focus and quiet your mind, just start with something simple like 10 minutes a day. If thoughts come to your mind, brush them away and refocus. Tip: Guided meditation is easier for beginners than silence.

 

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Originally Posted: http://monarchwellness.net/2017/04/your-self-awareness-guide/

Don’t Allow Fear to Stop You

“What you fear the most will come to you.” This proverb is found originally in the Bible (Jeremiah 42) and has been rehashed over and over throughout the years by sages, Wisemen, authors, and motivational speakers.

Fear and worry are driving factors in many people’s lives. Both are a misuse of the imagination. Imagination and thoughts are power.

The truth of the matter isn’t that just what you fear the most will come to you… It’s that whatever you focus on – good or bad will have a tendency to manifest in your life. The beauty is that once you understand this you realize that you are in control. You get to decide what you will experience in this life.

Fear is a feeling. It’s a visceral reaction we have to a possibility of an outcome that we do not want. Realizing that that outcome has not happened yet and may not ever need to occur and even better yet, that you hold the key to overcoming the possibility entirely. It has been said that the acronym FEAR stands for is False Evidence Appearing Real. This could not be truer.

How do you get past a fear?

  • Switch Focus – occupying your mind and time with other more positive things can help. Do your best to keep your mind off of outcomes you do not wish to happen.
  • Face your fears – If you have a fear of something tactile – heights, fire, needles, etc. desensitization can also be helpful. Fear is not logical. Fear is often irrational. Repeated exposure gets your mind and body used to the stimulus often causing the fear to lessen over time. Refusing to face fear keeps it alive. The common tactic of burying your head in the sand does not work and only serves to delay.
  • Be easy on yourself – changing old ingrained habits take time and practice. If you find yourself in old patterns of fear based thought, do your best to take some deep breaths and refocus.
  • Focused meditation – practicing meditation can help you to clear old patterns subconsciously.

Monarch Wellness offers sessions and classes that can help you get past the fear and on to living a more full and happy life. Visit www.monarchwellness.net to learn more or sign up.

Originally posted: http://monarchwellness.net/2017/02/dont-allow-fear-to-stop-you/