Letting Go of a Soulmate

Many of us have the wrong idea of what a soulmate is. A soul mate is not your perfect or only love match. It is a soul to whom you are deeply connected who have incarnated here on earth and you and they have agreed on a soul level to be one another’s teachers.

For a more in-depth article on soul mates – They aren’t what you think click here. https://sarahbarendse.com/2017/05/22/soul-mates-they-arent-what-you-think/

When that soul contract comes to completion and the lessons have been learned and one or both soul mates need to move on it can be tough to let go even if you know it is for the best. The depth at which you feel the break is because of the soul level connection you have with that person. That connection, no matter the circumstance, feels like home. It feels familiar and safe. When it becomes necessary to sever that cord, there can be a grieving process much like as if there was a death, because there has been – the death of a friendship or a relationship. It’s the earthly portion of the connection.

Simply put – for as good as that initial connection can make you feel, disconnection can feel equally as bad.

The thing is, you cannot keep hanging on to old lessons. When you attend school, once you complete the class, no matter how good of a time you had, if you passed, you must move forward. There are no 40-year-old sophomores in high school for a reason. You just don’t belong there any longer. Relationships and friendships, when soul contracted, can work in much the same way.

Dr. Seuss had it right. “Smile because it happened, don’t be sad because it’s over.” Thank your soul mate for the growth and the lessons (good or bad – it’s only a judgment anyway). Do your best to focus on other things and people in your world and move forward asking for only people, places, experiences and circumstances that are in your best and highest interest. If possible, let them know that on that soul level you love them but that in this physical plane, it is time for you to go.

Allow yourself to feel whatever you feel and know that this too shall pass. Trust the Universe that they will move on as well and be ok without you.

Life is nothing but a series of experiences and lessons. Love, laugh, learn and move on just doing the best you can for your own personal growth and those around you that you care about.

Sometimes it is simply time to move on to the next chapter so you can see what’s next.

Facebook Friends Aren’t “Real” Friends..

Online Friends Aren’t “Real” Friends…

I have heard this time and time again and frankly? I simply do not believe that to be true.
Over the years I have met, online through various sites, likely a couple of thousand people in person. Only a very very few weren’t just as they seemed online. There are many more of you I would love to meet offline at some point. Some of you I have become so enamored with that I have kept you for nearly 2 decades now and I fully believe that we will be friends for life. (you all know who you are 😉 )


I currently have nearly 5,000 friends on Facebook.
It has been a weeding process for sure, but what in life isn’t a process of trial and error?
Even some that haven’t made the cut have ended up as entertainment for myself and in turn for those who read my wall.
There are no accidents. We come in contact with, meet and converse with and yes, even become friends with those who we are supposed to in the grand scheme of things on a Universal level.


We are living in an unprecedented time of open world wide communication. Never before in history have we been able to befriend someone half way around the world and keep in touch with them in real time. Go by how you feel. If you have a connection with someone, don’t let anyone tell you that isn’t real. Talking with and befriending people in person or other wise always leads to an enriched life and view of the world.


Chat away people! Facebook is fun, allows you to be creative and is far cheaper than therapy! LOL


Sincerely,
Sarah

If You See Something, Say something!

Compliment people when they deserve it………

It seems like these days most of the time only when something is wrong does it get vocalized… but what about when you think something good about someone? Do you readily tell them?

Getting genuine heart felt compliments can lift someone’s day. I have been surprised by reactions multiple times to saying something to someone and they look just perplexed. I ask “Surely you hear that often?” – The answer is almost always no… even if it’s something as generic as “you look very pretty today.” Which of course I cannot be the only one around thinking.

When you compliment someone honestly, it makes them feel good and in turn you feel good.

So what are you waiting for?

Lets take this crazy government campaign of  “If you see something, say something” and give it a whole new, better, healthier meaning.