Many of us have the wrong idea of what a soulmate is. A soul mate is not your perfect or only love match. It is a soul to whom you are deeply connected who have incarnated here on earth and you and they have agreed on a soul level to be one another’s teachers.
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When that soul contract comes to completion and the lessons have been learned and one or both soul mates need to move on it can be tough to let go even if you know it is for the best. The depth at which you feel the break is because of the soul level connection you have with that person. That connection, no matter the circumstance, feels like home. It feels familiar and safe. When it becomes necessary to sever that cord, there can be a grieving process much like as if there was a death, because there has been – the death of a friendship or a relationship. It’s the earthly portion of the connection.
Simply put – for as good as that initial connection can make you feel, disconnection can feel equally as bad.
The thing is, you cannot keep hanging on to old lessons. When you attend school, once you complete the class, no matter how good of a time you had, if you passed, you must move forward. There are no 40-year-old sophomores in high school for a reason. You just don’t belong there any longer. Relationships and friendships, when soul contracted, can work in much the same way.
Dr. Seuss had it right. “Smile because it happened, don’t be sad because it’s over.” Thank your soul mate for the growth and the lessons (good or bad – it’s only a judgment anyway). Do your best to focus on other things and people in your world and move forward asking for only people, places, experiences and circumstances that are in your best and highest interest. If possible, let them know that on that soul level you love them but that in this physical plane, it is time for you to go.
Allow yourself to feel whatever you feel and know that this too shall pass. Trust the Universe that they will move on as well and be ok without you.
Life is nothing but a series of experiences and lessons. Love, laugh, learn and move on just doing the best you can for your own personal growth and those around you that you care about.
Sometimes it is simply time to move on to the next chapter so you can see what’s next.