The PAST: Many have had very painful and traumatic experiences. No one wants to go through that kind of stuff. (and I am very sorry for the suffering). The fact remains though that each experience in our lives has helped to shape who we are.
In order to gain full acceptance and love for ourselves, we have to be able to integrate the dark and the light.
There is not one person on this planet who has not suffered and though some are more extreme than others, pain isn’t up for comparison. We all experience pain differently. Pain is pain.
Hate, anger, resentment, even a want for revenge give your power away to whomever or whatever hurt you on an ongoing daily basis.
The way to break free is to take that power back. You cannot change the past. You can only go from here. Shift your focus to the present because it is the ONLY time that ever exists.
Show yourself the love you may have been lacking. The respect, the care. It is time to take care of YOU.