Outgrowing Friendships

In life, there come periods where change is inevitable.

Nothing can stay the same forever. That includes our circle of friends. Friendships are based on commonalities, not just whether you like each other or not. When those common interests begin to fall away, it means that growth is happening to one, the other, or hopefully both parties.

Growth is the natural order of things. As we age, we change. As we explore the world we find new exciting things that trip our fancy, we form opinions based on our experiences, we work on ourselves letting go of old baggage that doesn’t serve us any longer.

Friends will sometimes remark “you’ve changed” and mean it in a not so nice fashion. Take it as a compliment. It means you haven’t been remaining stagnant. Whether your friend approves or not is inconsequential.

Friends are wonderful things. It is important to have people in your world who genuinely care about you and your wellbeing and vice versa. All friendships aren’t meant to last a lifetime though. It may feel strange or uncomfortable to feel like you should walk away and leave someone in your past, but it is a natural occurrence in life and will happen time and time again. It doesn’t mean you no longer care about them or that they didn’t play a major role in your life for a time.

What it means is that we all are destined to walk our own path and not everyone is meant to follow along. They have their own trail to go down too. If you feel like you have outgrown your friend or group of friends, it’s likely you have. Wish them well and continue on your way.

Clearing room in your social circle opens up space energetically for new better-suited matches to arrive in your life.

Be excited to see who is next.

Discordant Energy

While friends don’t always need to agree on everything there comes a point in many friendships where there just isn’t enough left in common to maintain the bond. Discord becomes the key element and you find yourself being off-put by that person’s energy rather than drawn in as you used to be. It doesn’t mean you don’t care about them anymore or that any love you had for them is gone, it does sometimes mean that you may both be better off moving on in life, separately.

Life is to be enjoyed harmoniously with the universe and with others. Anything that seems in opposition to that needs to be released for your own highest good as well as that of the other person.

Do you have friends or just acquaintances?

In the day and age of social media where you can “add a friend” in a mere click, how do you distinguish the difference between an actual friend and someone who is just an acquaintance?

 

That line is blurry for many. Friend collecting has become a virtual popularity contest. Facebook limits you to 5000 friends, though the number of followers you can have is endless. Say you reach that limit. Of those 5000 people, how many do you know in person? How many do you even recognize their names?

 

Not to say that social media cannot result in making genuine connections, it can. But this begs the deeper question.

 

What is an acquaintance?

 

An acquaintance is someone you have met in passing. You do not know them very well and haven’t made a particularly deep or solid connection. They are a surface level version of a friend.

 

What is a friend?

 

  • A friend is someone who you enjoy spending time with, who you relate well to, you feel a connection with and whom you have things in common.
  • A friend is someone you can confide in and trust.
  • A friend is someone who genuinely cares about you and your wellbeing.
  • A friend is someone who isn’t motivated selfishly in their intent who has your best interest at heart.
  • A friend will defend you to others.
  • A friend will speak well of you behind your back just as they would directly to you.
  • A friend is someone with whom you can be yourself completely.
  • A friend values your friendship and you theirs. There is mutual respect.
  • A friendship is a two-way street, it is balanced in giving and receiving.

 

When you find a true friend, value them. Be good to them. Treat them as you would like to be treated. When this is done on both parts, that friendship can last a lifetime.

 

Real life friends aren’t made in a single click, it takes time. Acquaintances come and go, but true friendship is to be valued and cherished.

 

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Originally Published: http://monarchwellness.net/2017/04/do-you-have-friends-or-just-acquaintances/

Facebook Friends Aren’t “Real” Friends..

Online Friends Aren’t “Real” Friends…

I have heard this time and time again and frankly? I simply do not believe that to be true.
Over the years I have met, online through various sites, likely a couple of thousand people in person. Only a very very few weren’t just as they seemed online. There are many more of you I would love to meet offline at some point. Some of you I have become so enamored with that I have kept you for nearly 2 decades now and I fully believe that we will be friends for life. (you all know who you are 😉 )


I currently have nearly 5,000 friends on Facebook.
It has been a weeding process for sure, but what in life isn’t a process of trial and error?
Even some that haven’t made the cut have ended up as entertainment for myself and in turn for those who read my wall.
There are no accidents. We come in contact with, meet and converse with and yes, even become friends with those who we are supposed to in the grand scheme of things on a Universal level.


We are living in an unprecedented time of open world wide communication. Never before in history have we been able to befriend someone half way around the world and keep in touch with them in real time. Go by how you feel. If you have a connection with someone, don’t let anyone tell you that isn’t real. Talking with and befriending people in person or other wise always leads to an enriched life and view of the world.


Chat away people! Facebook is fun, allows you to be creative and is far cheaper than therapy! LOL


Sincerely,
Sarah