Letting Go of a Soulmate

Many of us have the wrong idea of what a soulmate is. A soul mate is not your perfect or only love match. It is a soul to whom you are deeply connected who have incarnated here on earth and you and they have agreed on a soul level to be one another’s teachers.

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When that soul contract comes to completion and the lessons have been learned and one or both soul mates need to move on it can be tough to let go even if you know it is for the best. The depth at which you feel the break is because of the soul level connection you have with that person. That connection, no matter the circumstance, feels like home. It feels familiar and safe. When it becomes necessary to sever that cord, there can be a grieving process much like as if there was a death, because there has been – the death of a friendship or a relationship. It’s the earthly portion of the connection.

Simply put – for as good as that initial connection can make you feel, disconnection can feel equally as bad.

The thing is, you cannot keep hanging on to old lessons. When you attend school, once you complete the class, no matter how good of a time you had, if you passed, you must move forward. There are no 40-year-old sophomores in high school for a reason. You just don’t belong there any longer. Relationships and friendships, when soul contracted, can work in much the same way.

Dr. Seuss had it right. “Smile because it happened, don’t be sad because it’s over.” Thank your soul mate for the growth and the lessons (good or bad – it’s only a judgment anyway). Do your best to focus on other things and people in your world and move forward asking for only people, places, experiences and circumstances that are in your best and highest interest. If possible, let them know that on that soul level you love them but that in this physical plane, it is time for you to go.

Allow yourself to feel whatever you feel and know that this too shall pass. Trust the Universe that they will move on as well and be ok without you.

Life is nothing but a series of experiences and lessons. Love, laugh, learn and move on just doing the best you can for your own personal growth and those around you that you care about.

Sometimes it is simply time to move on to the next chapter so you can see what’s next.

Severed Connections

Love is the strongest bond and the highest vibratory level. During the course of our lifetime, we have encounters and form relationships with many different people. This includes family, friends, and lovers. All of them are loved in their own way.

The list of reasons relationships may come to an end is virtually endless and incredibly personal. Sometimes separation is unavoidable, however painful. No two relationships are the same as no two humans are the same, therefore what you experience with someone will be unlike anything that can be replicated.

Though you may miss the cherished connection you had, life circumstances and behavior may dictate that divide stand. Life continues, down two separate paths. The question remains, is that love ever really gone?

It has been said there is a fine line between love and hate. The real dichotomy would be love and indifference. Both love and hate are strong emotions, whether you push or pull against something you are giving it attention and in turn, keeping it anchored in your mind and in your life.

Sometimes it is just plain hard to really let go even when you truly believe it is in your own best interest and possibly even the best interest of the other person.

Letting go doesn’t have to mean the relinquishing of the love you feel for that person. Loving another person unconditionally means true acceptance on every level, even when there may not be “like” or tolerance left, there still can be love.

Allow it to be, try to appreciate it for what it is, and do your best to switch focus to the positive working aspects of your life and the people are you choosing to stay in the cast of characters that is your life.

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Relinquishing the need to save others

It is the human condition to want to help. It is kind and proper to do your best to be good to others. It is in everyone’s best interest. – Or, is it?

Helping others helps our humanity. We feel good when we truly perform gestures of kindness. The problem comes in when that kindness is taken advantage of. When you end up with certain individuals in your life that come to expect you to constantly help. They can begin to cross that line from needing an occasional favor to needing and worse expecting you to be there at the drop of the hat every time something goes wrong.

You become their lifeline, their knight in shining armor.

It can be time-consuming, emotionally draining, physically draining, and even push the limits of their life taking time away from and precedence over your own. Learning to say “no” becomes vital to your own wellbeing. The problem is that with these types of friendships or relationships along with saying “no”, often comes guilt. You want the best for that person and it was in your realm of possibility to help them (again). But this time you didn’t. How do you justify that? – Not to them, but to yourself.

It is important to think about things from a different perspective. When it is all about them, yes the perspective is “feel bad” “you should have helped”. But in reality how good of a friend is that person being to you by expecting you to help take care of their life issues all of the time? Is that kind on their part, is it thoughtful, does it take into account your feelings?

The answer is No.

The best way to keep balance in any friendship or relationship is to establish balance and boundaries. When it’s all give and no take on one side the energy and the friendship are not balanced. Constantly trying to save someone, no matter how much you love them not only wears you out, it actually disempowers that person.

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