Who Are You Carrying All Those Rocks Around for Anyway?

Years back there was a show on TV called “The Big C” – The C at that time stood for Cancer, not COVID. It stared a character who was diagnosed with and going through treatment for cancer. In one episode she goes to a self-awareness retreat to help her emotionally deal with a terminal illness.

This lesson and illustration have always stuck with me.

On her arrival, the camp leader hands her and all her cohorts a backpack. As they each put it on the remark how heavy it is. The backpacks are full of rocks. Some laugh, some complain, but they all willingly put on the packs.

They keep them on throughout the seminars, activities, meals, and meetings. Finally, the main character stands up, super annoyed, looks at the head counselor and tells her off, taking off the backpack and dropping it dramatically on the ground.

She expects the woman to come back at her with reasons why she needs to keep it on and is ready for a fight. Instead, she is met with a genuine smile and a slow clap.

The counselor says to her “Who exactly were you carrying around all those rocks for anyway?”

The point being that the bags were symbolic of all the emotional baggage we carry around every day that weighs us down. Memories, lost dreams, things we have said or done to others, things others have said or done to us, traumas, childhood issues, all of it.

Are they serving you well or are you just dragging them around weighed down unable to really feel free or enjoy life?

Look at your own life. Are you carrying rocks that you no longer need or maybe that aren’t even yours to carry?

You don’t live in the past. Release it. Let it go.

2022 is a new year – What are you going to carry into it?

A Must Read: Time Moves Quickly.

You know. . . time has a way of moving quickly and catching you unaware of the passing years.
It seems just yesterday that I was young, just married and embarking on my new life with my mate. Yet in a way, it seems like eons ago, and I wonder where all the years went. I know that I lived them all. I have glimpses of how it was back then and of all my hopes and dreams. But, here it is… the winter of my life and it catches me by surprise…How did I get here so fast? Where did the years go and where did my youth go?

I remember well seeing older people through the years and thinking that those older people were years away from me and that winter was so far off that I could not fathom it or imagine fully what it would be like. But, here it is…my friends are retired and getting grey…they move slower and I see an older person now. Some are in better and some worse shape than me…but, I see the great change….Not like the ones that I remember who were young and vibrant…but, like me, their age is beginning to show and we are now those older folks that we used to see and never thought we’d be.
Each day now, I find that just getting a shower is a real target for the day! And taking a nap is not a treat anymore… it’s mandatory! Cause if I don’t on my own free will… I just fall asleep where I sit!

And so…now I enter into this new season of my life unprepared for all the aches and pains and the loss of strength and ability to go and do things that I wish I had done but never did!
But, at least I know, that though the winter has come, and I’m not sure how long it will last…this I know, that when it’s over on this earth…it’s NOT over. A new adventure will begin!

Yes, I have regrets. There are things I wish I hadn’t done…things I should have done, but indeed, there are many things I’m happy to have done. It’s all in a lifetime. So, if you’re not in your winter yet…let me remind you, that it will be here faster than you think. So, whatever you would like to accomplish in your life please do it quickly! Don’t put things off too long!

Life goes by quickly. So, do what you can today, as you can never be sure whether this is your winter or not! You have no promise that you will see all the seasons of your life…so, live for today and say all the things that you want your loved ones to remember…and hope that they appreciate and love you for all the things that you have done for them in all the years past!

“Life” is a gift to you. The way you live your life is your gift to those who come after. Make it a fantastic one.
LIVE IT WELL! ENJOY TODAY! DO SOMETHING FUN! BE HAPPY! HAVE A GREAT DAY!

REMEMBER:
“It is health that is real wealth and not pieces of gold and silver.
“LIVE HAPPY IN THIS YEAR AND EVERY YEAR!LASTLY, CONSIDER THE FOLLOWING:TODAY IS THE OLDEST YOU’VE EVER BEEN, YET THE YOUNGEST YOU’LL EVER BE SO – ENJOY THIS DAY WHILE IT LASTS.
~Your kids are becoming you…….
~Going out is good.. Coming home is better!
~You forget names…. But it’s OK because other people forgot they even knew you!!!
~You realize you’re never going to be really good at anything
~The things you used to care to do, you no longer care to do, but you really do care that you don’t care to do them anymore.
~You sleep better on a lounge chair with the TV blaring than in bed. It’s called “pre-sleep”.
~You miss the days when everything worked with just an “ON” and “OFF” switch..
~You tend to use more 4 letter words … “what?”…”when?”… “what?” . ???
~Now that you can afford expensive jewelry, it’s not safe to wear it anywhere.
~You notice everything they sell in stores is “sleeveless”?!!!
~What used to be freckles are now liver spots.
~Everybody whispers.
~You have 3 sizes of clothes in your closet…. 2 of which you will never wear.
~But Old is good in some things: Old Songs, Old movies, and best of all, OLD FRIENDS!!

Stay well, “OLD FRIEND!” Send this on to other “Old Friends!” and let them laugh in AGREEMENT!!!

It’s Not What You Gather, But What You Scatter That Tells What Kind Of Life You Have Lived.

I don’t know who wrote this, but I love it.

Letting Go of a Soulmate

Many of us have the wrong idea of what a soulmate is. A soul mate is not your perfect or only love match. It is a soul to whom you are deeply connected who have incarnated here on earth and you and they have agreed on a soul level to be one another’s teachers.

For a more in-depth article on soul mates – They aren’t what you think click here. https://sarahbarendse.com/2017/05/22/soul-mates-they-arent-what-you-think/

When that soul contract comes to completion and the lessons have been learned and one or both soul mates need to move on it can be tough to let go even if you know it is for the best. The depth at which you feel the break is because of the soul level connection you have with that person. That connection, no matter the circumstance, feels like home. It feels familiar and safe. When it becomes necessary to sever that cord, there can be a grieving process much like as if there was a death, because there has been – the death of a friendship or a relationship. It’s the earthly portion of the connection.

Simply put – for as good as that initial connection can make you feel, disconnection can feel equally as bad.

The thing is, you cannot keep hanging on to old lessons. When you attend school, once you complete the class, no matter how good of a time you had, if you passed, you must move forward. There are no 40-year-old sophomores in high school for a reason. You just don’t belong there any longer. Relationships and friendships, when soul contracted, can work in much the same way.

Dr. Seuss had it right. “Smile because it happened, don’t be sad because it’s over.” Thank your soul mate for the growth and the lessons (good or bad – it’s only a judgment anyway). Do your best to focus on other things and people in your world and move forward asking for only people, places, experiences and circumstances that are in your best and highest interest. If possible, let them know that on that soul level you love them but that in this physical plane, it is time for you to go.

Allow yourself to feel whatever you feel and know that this too shall pass. Trust the Universe that they will move on as well and be ok without you.

Life is nothing but a series of experiences and lessons. Love, laugh, learn and move on just doing the best you can for your own personal growth and those around you that you care about.

Sometimes it is simply time to move on to the next chapter so you can see what’s next.