Re-energize yourself with a 1 Day Technology Fast

Do you feel like you just can’t get everything done that you need to?

Are you tired even though you get plenty of sleep?

Do you ever feel like you simply just can’t catch up on life in general?

 

We all go full steam ahead at an abnormally fast pace these days. Work, school, kids, friends, meetings, appointments, errands, obligations, it can take its toll over time.

 

Taking time for ourselves has somehow become taboo and labeled as selfish. Here is the big news folks, it’s not! If you constantly burn the candle at both ends, do you know what you end up with? – A big unhappy glob of melted wax and a charbroiled wick.

 

This leaves a good portion of the country feeling this way and turning to doctors to figure out why they are depressed, exhausted, or even worse, sick. The answer should be obvious – we are not taking care of ourselves.

 

Communication is easier and faster than ever these days. Messaging, texting, smart phones, email, you are virtually always reachable. This is a double-edged sword. When we got these devices, none of us wanted to be at everyone’s beckon call, yet that seems to be where we are headed. We hear the beep, blip, ding or other sound effect signaling that we have a message and we jump. We have literally become Pavlov’s dog.

 

How many messages do you get a day? How many texts? They add up to us jumping constantly to look at our devices. You see it out in public, people in restaurants and parks, heads cocked down staring at phones – even when they are with friends.  We are so busy taking pictures and posting, commenting, liking and sharing that we are not living in the moment other than through those little screens.

 

This false electronic reality is fun, entertaining and informative, but it is also time-consuming and draining.

 

If you are feeling burnt out, take just one day and do a Technology Fast.

  • Put your phone away
  • Put your tablets away
  • Turn off social media accounts
  • Take the day off of work or do this on a weekend
  • Let friends and family know who might worry that you are doing this. Oddly, you may be met with some opposition, ignore it. This isn’t about them, it’s about you – your peace of mind and health
  • Spend time doing whatever makes you happy that does not involve the above mentioned electronic devices. – go for a walk, clean your house, lunch with a friend, take a nap, meditate, go to the beach, spend time outside, you name it.

 

It may be hard to break the habit of reaching for your phone to check what’s going on with everyone, but I guarantee by mid-day you will be feeling more energized.

 

If you are in the Naples, FL area, come take a class at Monarch Wellness. We have a wide array of classes to help you relax and center. www.monarchwellness.net

Originally Posted: http://monarchwellness.net/2017/03/reenergize-yourself-with-a-1-day-technology-fast/

Don’t Just Deal with Stress – Eliminate it!

In a world filled with alarm clocks, rush hour traffic, deadlines that must be met, bills to pay and mouths to feed – multitasking, sleep deprivation and stress have become the norm.

Everyone has “one of those days” once in a while. But when stress invades and takes over your world becoming a way of life something needs to change. The human body was not meant to operate on coffee and adrenaline on a daily basis. This type of fast pace high-pressure lifestyle takes its toll on your health, your emotional and spiritual well-being as well as your relationships.

What is stress? – Stress is any physical, chemical, or emotional factor that causes the body mentally or physically to be in a state of unrest. But what can you do about it? Quite a bit it turns out! I am going out on a limb to make a controversial and shocking statement. Here goes…are you ready? YOU are creating your life. Pure and simple. Because of this, YOU are the only one who can change it and free yourself from this crazy pace that is taking a toll on your very existence.

“What? No, you just don’t understand” you may think to yourself… “It’s not MY fault, it can’t be. I am not the one causing me all this stress it’s my boss, husband, kids, mother in law, insert another possible scapegoat here____.”

While it is true that you cannot control anyone else’s actions, what you can control is your reaction to them.

The first step in eliminating stress from your life on a permanent basis is to start with the basic concept that you are in fact 100% responsible for your life.  Once you do that, you can see clearly what (and sometimes who) is not in your best interest to keep. We know this is a big step for some, but by doing this you not only take responsibility you take back control.

Step two is changing your outlook. What is it that we all want out of life? A new car? A nice house? A vacation to Tahiti? Well, sure. We all like those things. But why? What is at the core of wanting these material items and experiences?

It’s happiness, joy, relaxation, and excitement! I think we can all agree that what we all want most is simple. We want to feel good.

Here are a couple of exercises to help:

When you wake up first thing in the morning jump out of bed and declare out loud “Today is going to be a fantastic day!” You may feel like a complete buffoon doing this at first, and even like you are lying to yourself. It’s ok to feel silly, humor us and do it anyway. Your subconscious hears you and cannot differentiate between the truth and a lie, it believes everything you say to be truth and so accepts it as fact. Believe your day will be fantastic and it will be.

Another very helpful idea is to make a Gratitude List. Any piece of paper will do, just write down everything you have in your life that you feel grateful for. You will be amazed at how much actually ends up on your list. The more you focus on the positive, the more positive you will draw into your life. And in turn, the better you will feel overall!

Some of us start from such a chaotic low place it’s not easy for us to shift to feeling good. Ok, we get that, your goal should be to just feel as good as you can right now. Do something nice for yourself. Take a “me” moment. Go for a walk, have a coffee, just let the world fall away for a minute and allow yourself to be at the center of your world and really be in present time. After all, if you don’t take the time and care for yourself, who will?

Changing the way that you think is no easy task. It takes practice, for the mind is like a child with attention deficit disorder. It runs amuck from thought to thought, making order and serenity difficult at best. Meditation is a good way to practice quieting the mind. Take some time out without distractions and turn on some calm soothing music and just “be” in the stillness. Allow your mind to wander but with the focused intent of being calm and clear and just breathe. With time and practice, you will be able to clear your mind of all thought and you will achieve a serene feeling that will stay with you.

In recent years we have been conditioned in the workplace that in order to succeed we have to do a million things at once and do them correctly. That is a lot of pressure! This is in fact, is not what successful people do. Successful people do one thing at a time with intent and with focus. They use a to-do list not on the computer or on a palm pilot but on good old fashioned paper with a pen or pencil, scratching things off and moving along. Why? Because it’s tactile. It becomes more easily engrained in your mind making it easier to remember.

In order to lead a low-stress existence, let’s summarize:

  1. Take responsibility for your life. By doing so you take back control.
  1. Change our outlook, the old saying “fake it till you make it” is more than true. It’s very difficult to be sad when your face is smiling.
  1. Clear your life of things that stress you out – if you don’t like your job –get another one. The same is to be said for personal relationships – if they are beyond repair, love the other person enough and yourself enough to appreciate it for what it was and what you have learned from them and let it go.
  1. Take time for yourself – be nice to yourself. You are important!
  2. Clear your mind and allow peace to become a part of your daily life and realize that you deserve it.
  1. Organize – When everything is in its proper place it brings balance to both the heart and mind.
  1. Just breathe – oxygen is very important for the body and most of us breathe way too shallowly. Make sure to breathe from your diaphragm – your shoulders should remain still.

Stress is a top cause of many illnesses as it manifests itself in the body in numerous ways – high blood pressure, anxiety, heart attacks, headache, cancer, depression and many others. Taking steps today to simplify and distress your life could save your health and your life tomorrow.

For classes and one on one sessions that can help alleviate stress and help you relax and gain balance back in your life, visit Monarch Wellness www.monarchwellness.net.

Originally Posted: http://monarchwellness.net/2017/02/stress/

How to Be Happy

I am amazed at how many people have yet to figure this one out. We are all born with an internal guidance system.
It’s called feeling. Feeling comes from the heart not from the brain. Logic and your mind will play games with you as it is your brain that has been programmed by life and society. Your heart is a free thinker, so to speak.

Internal conflict comes when your heart and your mind are at odds. My best advice is to always follow your heart. It is far smarter and truer to who you really are. It knows. Your mind just thinks it knows. Somewhere along the way your ego also likes to jump in and now you have an all out internal brawl. I’m fairly sure this is where emotional breakdowns and anxiety attacks come into play.

Here are some rules to follow in order to tell your mind and ego to shut it and tune into your heart.

 1. If you feel uneasy, unhappy, or ill at ease with something or someone – Simply remove yourself from the situation.

*Now I know at this point some will say, “It’s not that easy.”

It is.

You are for whatever reason, choosing to make it hard. If it’s a job – find another and quit. If it’s a relationship – get out. Whatever “it” is for you work towards moving on to something else.

 2. Live in the NOW.

Stop lamenting about the past – what you would have, could have, should have done. It makes zero difference – you cannot go back. Stop worrying about the future. You aren’t there yet. Future is formed by doing and being in the present and being here fully. Choose actions that will lead where you want to be.

Life is a choose your own adventure novel.

3. Stop beating yourself up because you aren’t perfect.

You aren’t meant to be perfect. You will never be “perfect”… This is earth school. We are spiritual beings having an earth bound experience in order to learn and grow and enjoy along the way. We are all our own individual masterpieces. There is no right, no wrong, and no perfect. In fact – In our imperfections we are always the perfect us at any given time.

 4. Show yourself some appreciation.  

You are an amazing being, yet many constantly put other people first. It is vital to take time to yourself and do things you enjoy and that make you happy. Its not possibly to make anyone else happy. But happy naturally rubs off on others…. So making yourself happy is key.

5. Listen to that inner voice. We all have one. It is far smarter than we are.

6. Be true to yourself and who you are. Never make changes for someone else unless you yourself believe they are in your best and highest interest and you are ready. Other people will always have opinions on you and your life……… They do not matter nearly as much as what you think of yourself.

 7.  Take time to meditate or if that isn’t your thing – just take some time every day to clear your mind and simply breathe…oxygenation heals and relaxes the body and mind.

8. You cannot medicate yourself into a state of happiness. Prescription drugs will cloud and cover and mask and yes, make you feel better for a while, but the actual issues causing the unhappiness aren’t going anywhere and will be there still until you choose consciously to make changes.

9. In summary? If something feels bad, off, wrong, makes you sad, depressed, uncomfortable? Stop doing it, participating in it, and/or allowing it in your world.

This is YOUR world. You are 100% in charge of it and you deserve to be happy.

 

Directions for a Happy Easy Flowing Life

As humans, I think we have a tendency to over think things.

We are so smart, we seem to outsmart ourselves.

We spend endless amounts of time pondering rather than feeling our way through things and actually acting on those feelings.

Why?
I have no idea.
Do you?

I think it may very well be a trained behavior
. As kids the advice most of us received was “Now (fill in your name), you want to think about this before you decide….” Our parents and advisers most certainly meant well. But decisions based on logical thought vs. gut intuition aren’t always in our best interest. We really can talk ourselves into pretty much anything, given enough time.

By adulthood most of us realize that in our lives, the times we have ignored “that little inner voice” (call it your higher self, inner self, God, The Universe, intuition – choose your label), things go terribly wrong.

Yet, even in consciously realizing this, we still question it.
We choose often “rational” thought over gut feeling.

It takes time and practice to be guided by intuition. Feelings are a gift. They are intended to be our GPS in life. Stop over complicating things.

Directions for a happy easy flowing life:

1. If it makes you happy or feel positive about yourself and the situation around you?
KEEP DOING IT!

2. If it makes you unhappy or feel badly about yourself or the situation around you?
STOP DOING IT.

Can’t believe it’s that easy?
Try it and see what results you get.

 

If You See Something, Say something!

Compliment people when they deserve it………

It seems like these days most of the time only when something is wrong does it get vocalized… but what about when you think something good about someone? Do you readily tell them?

Getting genuine heart felt compliments can lift someone’s day. I have been surprised by reactions multiple times to saying something to someone and they look just perplexed. I ask “Surely you hear that often?” – The answer is almost always no… even if it’s something as generic as “you look very pretty today.” Which of course I cannot be the only one around thinking.

When you compliment someone honestly, it makes them feel good and in turn you feel good.

So what are you waiting for?

Lets take this crazy government campaign of  “If you see something, say something” and give it a whole new, better, healthier meaning.