The Selfie Obsession – What’s Really Behind It

Many of us look at the number of selfies people post online and think “narcissist”. But is there more to it than that? Our online personas are the faces we wish to present to the world. It’s both who we are and who we strive to be wrapped into one. 

With the help of newer technologies, the view we present may or may not be the whole truth. Filters and Photoshop can do a great deal to alter the final image.

The question becomes, why are we doing this and why can’t we just be happy with ourselves as is?

The answer is perception.

Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. We have all heard that time old phrase but how true is it really?

Have you ever wondered what our brains see and if what one brain sees is the same as the next? My best guess is that indeed we do see things just a bit differently from each other. 

In the past, we have relied on others to take photos of us. Cameras just weren’t built for aiming towards yourself. They were too big and too bulky. Because of this we were always only presented through the perspective of the photographer.

This varied perspective is part of why we may love one photographer’s work and not so much another. Composition, lighting, angle, and personal view all come together to make the finished image. 

With the invention of smaller handheld phone cameras – came the selfie. I believe why this has become such an enormous trend is not just convenience but the ability to be the photographer. To capture what you see as your true best self. Selfies are the view you want the world to have of you. So when you are happy with the result you are proud to show it off.

***There is some kind of odd phenomenon that happens in photography. Many people will look at an image and say “That’s me?” as if they don’t recognize themselves. Somehow they get so hooked and focused on flaws that they don’t see their beauty until presented third person.
The same happens in voice recording. Your own voice will not sound like you (at least not to you).

Add to that the magic of filters and you can be thinner, have better skin, change your eye color, and do wondrous things. I have done magazine and editorial photo editing. It isn’t a pretty thing to see some of the before and after images. We smooth every line, wrinkle, freckle, birthmark, heck even the model’s armpits are touched up beyond recognition half the time. Necks are lengthened, shortened, and the same with legs and waists. These models are beautiful to start with, yet somehow as an advertiser in society, we wash away on purpose what makes them – them.

It’s no wonder the public has followed suit. 

I don’t believe selfies are so much about vanity as they are the ability to try and control how the world sees you, as well as how you perceive yourself so that it matches up with how you view yourself in your mind’s eye.

Is natural health becoming more and more about ego and money?

Is natural health becoming more and more about ego and money as time progresses?

As people fall away from believing solely in western allopathic medicine more and more seeing the destruction long-term pharmaceutical use can cause they are turning, rightly, to nature for relief and healing.

It’s hard to know who to listen to.

With western “approved” medicine and medical treatments there was always the illusionary safety net of being able to depend on FDA approval, medical boards, and reputable doctors who graduated from well-known universities. But so many of those avenues have been contaminated no longer having humanities best interest at heart. Much of it has turned in favor of big pay offs and kick backs that people are now searching for alternative healers, body workers, doctors, speakers and writers who share information in order to ease their ailments rather than following traditional routes.

I think most of us can agree that the majority of those who get into Natural Health, Healing, Body Work, and even those that go to medical school do so because they want to help others to live happy health lives. It does seem though that with all of the contradictory informational confusion, especially with the invent of the internet combined with the desperation of those living in pain who search for help, healing and direction, an off shoot of what the market is producing is a certain percentage of high profile self promoting self proclaimed self help gurus whose main goal is padding their bank accounts.

Though much of the information coming forth is sound, there seems to be a growing emphasis on showmanship, ego and personal career boost vs. really helping the people they proclaim to want to help.

Time and time again it is feeling like the same story as a re-run with a different cast of characters. Scams are prevalent either with products that do not work as promised or even when the products do work or are of good information there are those that prey on others who are willing to fund, support and jump on their well intentioned band-wagons only to lose out in the end.

This makes it increasingly more difficult for those who are well intentioned and do business honestly and to get people to believe in them and what they are promoting, which often times could very likely help improve their quality of life, yet they may pass on an opportunity and miss out as the trust level is being degraded.

Becoming informed, aware, and knowledgeable about health is no small feet especially as more and more information comes to light on a daily basis with previous conceptions and misconceptions changing as well.

We as human beings are intricate puzzles. I fully believe that all health issues can be solved and healed if we work with our bodies rather than fighting against them. Finding the core issues and allowing healing is vital as the mental, emotional and spiritual manifests in the physical. Getting to a level where you not only understand this on an educational level but on a root level of core belief takes time, study, personal clearing and often investment in ones self.

 

When choosing to devote your life or energy towards a mission of helping others along their path to health of course you do deserve payment for your time and effort. It is work. As much as many of us would love to simply volunteer our time, talents and knowledge I do understand that we have bills to pay and lives to maintain just like everyone else. I am not saying it’s wrong to make money in your chosen field. Money is nothing but an energy exchange. It keeps Universal balance flowing.

So how do you tell the difference between someone who is genuine in their desire to help humanity and someone who has gotten wrapped up in their own ego and is in it for the attention and the money?

I wish I could give you an easy answer. Having been duped myself a couple of times the best advice I have is to listen to your intuition and your feelings. If something feels off or wrong, don’t push that aside. Never listen to anyone above your own inner voice no matter how persuasive they may be.

Along with that if you have become involved in something or with someone that you later find isn’t all that it was cracked up to be, stand up for yourself as well as others if you see an injustice taking place.

 Greed, Money, and Ego have completely contaminated Western Medicine in our society….. Lets not allow the same thing to happen in the field of Natural Health.

Originally published on hcbl.com