Waste not – Want not” – This is the best way to live right now

While our parents and grandparents may have tried to instill this value into all of us growing up we were raised in a very prosperous time, especially here in the United States.

This is a highly consumeristic and materialistic society. We have become complacent and wasteful in our spending and our habits. We know we have whatever we need right at our fingertips. This is more literal than ever before with the onset of online shopping and same-day delivery.

In 2022 you could live your entire life and never leave the house if you so choose to! Food, clothing, medical needs, virtual doctor visits, as long as you worked from home – you could potentially never go out again. That is a really dangerous way to live. It would be easy to become antisocial and dependent on others to bring you everything you need to survive and live.

Prices are rising – from gas to food, to other random goods. The words “out of stock” are becoming more common.

What if suddenly you couldn’t get what you needed or wanted?
It is a distinct possibility looming here in the near future.

This is the time to be proactive. We all need to buckle down and save money as well as stock up on necessities.

What’s not being mentioned is the old adage of “waste not – want not.” This means appreciating what you already have. Use items to their full life potential. If you buy something, use it – even if it ends up not being the best version or your favorite. Use it. Get your money’s worth out of it until it’s gone, only then buy its replacement.

The more we go back to this way of viewing things – appreciating that we have them in the first place the less need there is for more or newer “stuff”. If a piece of clothing rips? Mend it. Don’t know how? Learn. If something breaks – can it be fixed? And most importantly – ask yourself “Do I really need it?” much of what we buy it’s a desire, not a need. Learn the difference.

This mentality will not only save you money it will actually bring you more prosperity!

When you are satisfied with what you have you are in gratitude. Gratitude brings in more prosperity. It also equates to greater happiness and satisfaction with life.

Go forth and waste not – want not. 😉

The Past…

The PAST: Many have had very painful and traumatic experiences. No one wants to go through that kind of stuff. (and I am very sorry for the suffering). The fact remains though that each experience in our lives has helped to shape who we are.

In order to gain full acceptance and love for ourselves, we have to be able to integrate the dark and the light.

There is not one person on this planet who has not suffered and though some are more extreme than others, pain isn’t up for comparison. We all experience pain differently. Pain is pain.

Hate, anger, resentment, even a want for revenge give your power away to whomever or whatever hurt you on an ongoing daily basis.
The way to break free is to take that power back. You cannot change the past. You can only go from here. Shift your focus to the present because it is the ONLY time that ever exists.

Show yourself the love you may have been lacking. The respect, the care. It is time to take care of YOU.

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Mind Your Own Business!

One of the main problems I see in 2020 is the inability to mind your own business. No one needs your opinion on nor your permission to live their lives as they see fit.

Back up
Back off
Mind your own freaking life and maybe it wont be such a shit show.

These have been Sarah’s 4 am words of advice.

Missing the quaintness, but not the cold!

I love AZ…….. The weather is lovely… I do not miss the freezing north….but I will say this……… I do miss the unique quaintness of Vermont. 

Of course many of the things I miss are no longer there….I can remember weekends with my mom just driving about, wandering and exploring, seeing what we could find…. one of my favorite places was TheCandle Mill in East Arlington, VT. An old wooden huge 2 story building that had the feel of a renovated barn with all kinds of nook and cranny rooms to explore. As soon as you opened the door the intoxicating scents of a multitude of candles would hit you like a wall of “Ahhhh”. It was right on a river and had several small alcoves you could sit in over top of the water and just enjoy it.

They had every kind of wonderful candle you could think of and you could even dip (color) your own in big vats of colorful wax. Huge candles bigger than me, and candles that looked like ribbon candy that were carved. Interesting boxes, bags and a whole floor of music boxes including one I was totally enamored with that hung on the wall there for years. It was a mirrored box, 2ft wide by 1ft high. Had it been in a home rather than on display it could have been mounted in a wall to look like an ornate flat normal mirror. The switch on the side though, when flipped on, was amazing. The mirroring faded away and revealed a ballroom with several figures inside dancing.

This was back in the day when kids were well behaved enough at shops like this still allowed you to explore and touch things without signs everywhere yelling at you before you even did anything.

This was an amazing little “plaza”, and I use that word loosely. It was a series of connected buildings, all that had their own interest. Right next door was the Rosebud Toy Company and RAH Earth. Rosebud was filled with stuffed animals and toys that required imagination to play with  – cool interesting and out of the box.It was an amazing place for gifts. RAH Earth was owned by a lovely woman named Roseanne who made beautiful custom pottery including music boxes, one of whichI still have. It is little clay me and my dog pumpkin sitting on a park bench.

Next door to them was a cheese shop that had cheeses from all over the world and samples galore. At the end was a hat shop where you could play dress up and see how you looked in just about every kind of hat there was.

In the neighboring town of Manchester was the world famous Jelly Mill. This monstrous converted barn was enormous and had heavy welded artistic metal doors. This is the single most unique “shop” I have yet to find. It was an indoor mall of sorts, in that it housed 20 or so individual shops. The building was old and creaked when you walked. It added character, and also made you wonder if one day someone wouldn’t just simply disappear, falling through the floor while shopping.

Jelly Mill early 80’s

There were gift cards, amazing unique jewelry collected from all over the world, crystals, plants, hand made figurines, a huge collection of fancy soaps that smelled wonderful, candies, pastries, candles, trinkets,boxes, cookware, toys, and a fantastic little café restaurant called TheButtery. I loved having lunch there, as a kid I guess that was my version of a tea party and it made me feel import and “fancy” as I only got to go there on special occasions. You could stay in there for hours and still not see everything. I do distinctly recall liking to go there with my dad better because he would buy me jellybeans.

The more you wandered around Vermont, the more eclectic tiny mom and pop shops you could find. We never knew what we might come home with and it was always an adventure.

Especially in retrospect, Vermont was a lovely place to grow up.

Wishing all my VT friends warm thoughts on this cold day!

Handwriting – The Lost Art Form and What Effect It May Have On Our Health

In the day and age where conversations and communications have switched mainly from paper to on screen-based technology and our children in some schools are no longer even being taught the art of writing in cursive script.

Text-based conversations and a fast-paced world are leading to more and more shortened and abbreviated terms to the point where your average adult cannot even understand readily what kids are talking about. And worse, not only are they typing these acronyms they are starting to speak in chat lingo. We are sliding backwards in our grasp of the English language and also in face-to-face communication ability. Handwriting quality, even for those of us who learned painstakingly how to write in cursive, is going massively downhill as most of our communication is now typed.

People who were born after 1980 seem to have a distinct slightly sloppy style that looks a bit childish; it’s a mix of cursive and penmanship. It was in the early 80’s when the school system became more lax – just as the personal computer began to emerge in the classroom.

Even so far back as the 1920’s educators had theorized that kids learned to read by looking at books which were printed, not written and they should learn to write the same way. Over the decades handwriting classes and the attention given to such have decreased and in some cases disappeared altogether.

In 2002 the No Child Left Behind Act was enacted. While they meant well, it has backfired badly passing kids through who aren’t ready and are uneducated just because they could fill in the circles and pass the tests. If something isn’t on a test, it is now considered a luxury  – handwriting, music, art all of these fall into this category despite the fact that they are amazingly helpful in the developmental growth of our youth.

What does this mean for our future and how does this relate to health? What if “the grid” went down, we had no more Internet, and we all had to write by hand? Could we? How many of us have handwriting that can be understood by most? That number is fading and will continue to fade unless something is done.

Healthwise physically writing is an important tool. It allows us to express our feelings, emotions and deepest thoughts. Writing is magical. Typing is not. It does not have the same effect vibrationally.

Quick physics lesson – We have been taught in school in science classes that everything is matter. And that matter is made up of the smallest molecules – atoms. Well, it has been found in recent years that there is indeed something even smaller than the atom. Vibrational Energy. Everything we see or touch is made of vibrating energy particles. And all things and creatures and thoughts vibrate at a slightly different level. It’s what makes a desk a desk and a pen a pen, though they are made of the same thing, they vibrate at a different frequency and because of this are seen as different items. Along with this same theory, the act of writing itself, the written word on paper – each word has an associated vibration. Each stroke means something. Because of this writing is special and certainly, we all know the written word can be very powerful. Look at all of the great speeches and books through the centuries. We have fought to preserve them for future generations.

On a more personal level, Writing Therapy has been around since the 1970’s. Most people are not aware of the therapeutic results writing or “journaling” can have. Writing Therapy has been proven to relieve: abuse, disease, asthma, depression, arthritis, disorders and even trauma. It has also been proven to bring a positive change with heart rate, the immune system function, blood pressure, stress relief, infection and disease. It allows the author to gain control of their feelings and their life.

So where are we headed in a world without cursive writing? It stands to reason that with our lack of use and practice of the written form, that writing altogether may go the way of the Dodo bird with typing and texting taking over as the only forms of utilized communication.

What can you do? We all need to use computers for work. They make our lives faster and easier. But try handwriting occasionally whether it’s for something as simple as a to-do list or writing someone a letter. The more you write, the better your writing looks stylistically. If you have kids, take the time to teach them cursive and encourage them to practice regardless of what their school has in the curriculum.

It has long been held standard that “Eloquence of speech equals eloquence of mind”.

Those who can express themselves easily and with style are held in society as more intelligent regardless of actual intellect. So give yourself and your children a hand up. Writing needs to make a come back for an array of reasons. And it can only happen one person and one family at a time.

Cancer – Taking Your Power Back! Part 3

“Take care of yourself”. We hear it daily, but what does that really mean?

I think to each of us it means something a little different. This could very well be the most important concept that so many of us are just plain missing in our lives. Our daily lives are filled with places to go, things we feel we must do, jobs, kids, family, appointments, but what about us? What about alone time? Many of you may laugh and think, “I don’t have time for that.” Yet, if you neglect yourself and your alone time, your inner battery often starts to wear thin. You begin to feel tired, worn out, and ragged which can lead to a sense of sadness and even depression. When you get depressed life goes even further down the tubes. You don’t care to see anyone, do anything, nothing makes you happy anymore and you just want to hide in your own little self-carved out cave, which only perpetuates the morbid feeling. How long would your cell phone work if you never put it back on the charger? It’s the same concept.

By taking care of yourself first before others, even your kids, your husband or anyone else, you do not only yourself a favor, but really them as well. You want to be the best you that you can be for yourself and for them.

Doing something nice for yourself each day – these are just a few suggestions.

Taking 15-20 min every day to be still and just breathe or read a book

Take a hot bath

Go for a walk in nature

Treat yourself to your favorite food or a cup of coffee/tea you love

Get a manicure or pedicure – or both!

Take a ride in the car

Go for a bicycle ride

Walk your dog /play with your cat

Pamper yourself


Dance around the house

Call a friend and just chat

Buy yourself a treat next time you grocery shop

Meditate (you knew I was going to suggest that one didn’t you?)

And the most important one of all? This is a big one…

Saying “No” when you mean no.

This is a tough one for a lot of people. You want to say yes and make the other person happy, and happy with you. It makes you feel good but the double-edged sword on that is that it also makes you feel bad because what you actually mean is “no”. “No, I cannot do that for you right now, I am sorry.”, is what you mean but what often comes out is “ok”.

Try it. Next time someone asks you to do something and your initial gut reaction is no, say, “No.”, and just pause. Sit with it for a minute and see how you feel. My guess is you will feel a slight rush of empowerment. And taking back your power is vital for your happiness and your recovery.

THIS is where true health starts. Happy = Healthy.

People who genuinely love and care about you will accept “no” as an answer. They may not like it at first, they may be resistant to change, but ultimately if they see you are putting your best interests first in order to regain your health, they will accept it. Those who can’t or don’t are likely not truly looking out for you and could be considered toxic relationships.

I know that this seems like a harsh term but in actuality, it’s very fitting. When a relationship, whether it be a friendship, a family connection or a love connection is off balance or one-sided where it’s all give and no take or vice versa, is not healthy for either party.

What do you do? Putting yourself first is new to so many of us that it doesn’t feel natural at first. Guilt may even be associated with it when first embarking on this journey.

There is no clinical definition of a toxic relationship, although we all have some idea of what it means to have a toxic friend.  The term “toxic relationships” is useful as a sidewalk definition, says clinical psychologist Clinton W. McLemore, PhD, author of Toxic Relationships and How to Change Them: Health and Holiness and Everyday Life. “Think of a scale — from nourishing on one end to toxic on the other. A toxic relationship is with someone who continually throws you surprises or curves, keeps you off balance, raises your anxiety for no apparent reason, and leaves you feeling badly about yourself.”

Toxic relationships can cause you to become depressed or anxious, warns McLemore. Even worse, repression of emotions does lead to stress which, over time, gives way to dangerous, even life threatening, illness when not faced and dealt with. Here are some signs that a relationship may be hurting you and your health rather than helping to heal you.

1) They put you down verbally, in private or in front of others.

2) They may tell you he/she loves you but behavior shows otherwise.

3) They don’t want you to see or talk to friends or family.

4) They are jealous of the time you spend with your kids.

5) They show up often at your work unexpectedly or open your mail/email.

6) They call you often to see what you are doing.

7) You cry often or feel depressed over this relationship.

8) They think you would have the perfect relationship if only you would change.

9) They prefer you to be dependant on them rather than independent.

10) He or she does things for you and then uses them to make you feel obligated.

11) Your thoughts, opinions, accomplishments or words are devalued.

12) You don’t know who you are anymore without him/her, or how you would survive.

13) Your friends/family don’t like this person or don’t think she/he is good for you.

14) You have changed things about yourself to suit this person, even when it is not your taste.

15) You always go where they want to, like movies, restaurants, etc.

16) They make you feel afraid or unsafe, and you have been afraid to speak the truth at times for fear of upsetting him/her (walking on eggshells).

17) You don’t feel you have control of your life anymore.

18) Your self-esteem is lower when you are with this person.

19) You think it’s up to you to make the relationship work.

20) You keep secrets about this relationship from others who love you because they wouldn’t understand.

21) They make you feel unattractive or stupid.

22) If it’s a love relationship, they may accuse you of cheating and are overly jealous.

23) They can be really sweet to you one minute, and really mean the next.

24) They seem really sweet/loving to you when he/she thinks you are about to leave the relationship, or after he/she has been mean to you.

25) You can’t remember the last time you felt happy for more than a few days straight.

These primarily were written to go with a love relationship, but can apply equally to friendships or family relationships as well. Spending time with other people should make you feel good, energized, and up lifted. If they don’t, you may want to reconsider whom you surround yourself with. Being alone is better than being with someone who brings you down.

Friendships and bonds should be mutually supportive.

Ok, yes – you agree. But now that you have identified these toxic relationships, what do you do about them? You can’t just stop talking to your mother-in- law or husband…. Can you?

Well, it is your life.  You are in charge and you can do anything you please. But before banishing them from your realm, here are a few things to try.

First – acknowledge to yourself how this relationship is affecting you. Writing helps tremendously here. Sit down and write a letter to that person telling them everything about how you are feeling and how the relationship makes you feel. You do not have to give it to them; this is for your healing, not theirs. Though, if you feel that they should read it, by all means do give it to them. Always follow your intuition and feelings.

Second – Sit and talk with them. Tell them how you feel (or give them the letter you wrote). They may be unhappy to hear this at first. Don’t berate them or start a fight, just tell plainly how you feel and let it be. It helps to use “I feel” statements rather than blame statements of “you” and “you make me feel” – as no one can actually “make” you feel or do anything and it automatically puts the other person on the defensive as they feel attacked. It will likely take some time to sink in. The most important thing here is getting these feelings out of you. Their reaction is secondary.

Third – Set boundaries. Let them know what will and will not be tolerated. Standing up for yourself is a big step in the recovery of any relationship and in your health. Along with this, stand behind the boundaries you choose. There is no cause for malice or bitterness, just state it as “what is”. It is not the same as an ultimatum. There is no choice to be made here. Treating you well is not optional. Everyone has the right to set how they are and are not willing to be treated.

Example: “I will no longer allow you to talk down to me. If this happens, I will not be able to have you around me as this is detrimental to my health both physically and emotionally.” If it does happen again, tell them clearly, “I love you, but you are crossing my boundaries and I cannot have that.” If it happens again, it is recommended to take a break from the friendship/relationship for a bit. Let them know you are serious. If they love you they will understand and, although they may not like it, eventually they respect you all the more for it.

You deserve to be around people who make you feel good – people who appreciate you as the unique entity that you are. A positive outlook and attitude are as essential as oxygen for your recovery. If they cannot accept your boundaries and continue to push you in a negative direction, it may be your only option to say good-bye for a while or possibly permanently. This is your life on the line here. A life filled with love and laughter should be the goal.

“Laughter is the best medicine”.

We have all heard the phrase, but is there more truth to it than we think? Laughter, as proven scientifically in “Humor Your Humor” by Paul McGhee, PhD. “Laughter in and of itself cannot cure cancer nor prevent cancer, but laughter as part of the full range of positive emotions including hope, love, faith, strong will to live, determination and purpose, can be a significant and indispensable aspect of the total fight for recovery.”

-Harold H. Benjamin, PhD

This is all wonderful in theory, but is there any evidence that emotions can actually have an impact on healing? Can an upbeat or depressive frame of mind, as you heal your body, influence whether or not you survive?

Multiple studies have shown that a positive attitude boosts your chances of conquering all illness. In one study, among patients with metastatic (spreading) cancers, those who expressed greater hope at the time of their diagnosis survived longer. In another study, over 400 reports of spontaneous remission of cancer were reviewed and analyzed. The patients themselves attributed their cure to a broad range of causes, but only one factor was common to all the cases – a shift toward greater hope.

One doctor linked unexpected tumor shrinkage to favorable changes in the mental state of the patient. Examples of such changes include “a sudden fortunate marriage; the experience of having one’s entire order of clergy engage in an intercessory prayer; sudden, lasting reconciliation with a long-hated mother; unexpected and enthusiastic praise and encouragement from an expert in one’s field; and the fortunate death of a decompensated alcoholic and addicted husband.”

The late Norman Cousins described a national survey of oncologists (completed during his stay at the UCLA Medical School) in his last book, “Head First: The Biology of Hope”. Of the 649 who offered their opinions on the importance of various psychological factors in fighting cancer, “More than 90% of the physicians said they attached the highest value to the attitudes of hope and optimism.”

All of this research is consistent with the findings of a recent study showing that method actors asked to generate the emotion of joy within themselves showed an increase in the number of natural killer cells circulating in the blood stream within 20 minutes. (Remember, a key role of natural killer cells is to seek out and destroy tumor cells throughout your body.) Once they got themselves out of this positive state, their levels of natural killer cells quickly dropped again. This gives credence to the old adage “fake it till ya make it.” Put on a happy face and your cells follow suit.

Laughter, in my opinion, is the highest vibrational expression of joy that we, as humans, can experience. After all, it is literal body shaking physical vibration that laughter causes. This is consistent with findings of “The Humor Your Tumor” article mentioned previously, showing that watching a funny video increases the number of, and activity of, natural killer cells.

Having a strong “will to live” has been noted by medical staff and family time and time again. Evidence of the importance of a fighting spirit was obtained in another study of survivors. Cancer patients with a strong will to overcome were most likely to be long-term survivors. Short-term survivors were more likely to show a “stoic, stiff upper lip attitude” and to continue their lives either as if nothing were different, or with a sense of helplessness or hopelessness.

The question, of course, is: how do you go about generating or sustaining hope, optimism, determination and a fighting spirit if these are not qualities you’ve shown throughout your life.

Love and your own spirituality are important sources of this hopeful and optimistic attitude. Another source is your sense of humor. It is no coincidence that so many cancer survivors credit their sense of humor for getting them through their ordeal. Humor helps overcome and work through the trials of each day and when you find a way of laughing in the midst of your problems, you automatically shift toward a frame of mind that invites a hopeful outlook and a conviction that you can beat this disease.

Spend time watching comedies, go to parks and enjoy nature, spend time with animals. Pets are fantastic and if you haven’t got a pet – consider if you are well enough, volunteering at a rescue or shelter. Those little creatures will benefit just as much from you as you do them. Even watching squirrels or feeding pigeons in the park will lift you up. Go to the theater or a comedy show. Make note of TV programs that come on that make you smile and record them all. Turn on some up beat music and sing! It doesn’t matter if you sound like Sarah Brightman or are totally tone def. One of my favorite quotes, though I do not know who said it is “I do not sing because I am happy… I am happy because I sing!” Do the action, the feeling will follow. Explore the world. Do things you have never done.

Start saying YES to life! If you are invited to go somewhere, even if you normally wouldn’t, try saying “yes”. You will be astounded at the new experiences “yes” can bring you.

We are not meant to do it alone.

Having a good strong support system around you is important as well. Having at least one person you feel that you can be your authentic self and with whom you can talk to about anything without judgment is vital. Release of emotions and thoughts is as important as taking in oxygen. Pent up emotion is how you got into this mess in the first place. This person or these people can be family, friends, therapists, clergy, even Internet friends – just as long as they really care and actually listen. Sometimes talking isn’t so easy. Sometimes chatting with people online and not face to face allows you a moment to reflect that you normally don’t experience in interactive face to face conversations. It also offers a more comfortable personal distance and a bit of anonymity. However you choose to express yourself, know that it is positive and life affirming to do so.

Live, laugh, love! This is not the end for you. It is an opportunity – the opportunity to begin again, to recreate your life the way YOU want it – starting today!

Just make it your goal to learn to find something to laugh at every day, and to take yourself a little less seriously, even as you continue to take your illness and your treatments very seriously. Life is a beautiful illusion.

I sincerely hope this information helps someone out there.


Cancer Taking Back Your Power | Part 2

From childhood, we are taught to be nice and polite and care about what others think and feel. But how many of us were taught to care about what you, yourself, think and feel? Were you taught to speak your mind, and to express yourself freely, really standing strong as your own unique and appreciated self? If you have – Fantastic! Kudos to your parents! Not enough of us have been, for sure. The good news is – it is never too late!

Many live their lives from an altruistic perspective, putting everyone else first and themselves second. Is this noble? Sure. Admirable? To many people – yes, it is but it isn’t actually a healthy way to live.

In order to truly show someone love, one must first love themselves and take care of themselves lest they use all of their energy up outwardly, wearing themselves down in the process. This type of selflessness can also lead to overstressing of the body and spirit and ultimately depression, illness, and even death.

At this point, you may be thinking that I am a selfish person. To this, I smile and say “Thank you.” Selfishness has gotten a bad rap. To be selfish means to think of one’s own needs first. The reality of it is, if you do not put yourself first, no one will. YOU are important. Let me say that again. YOU are important. Think of it in shorter scenario terms. Say you are about to be in a plane crash. What does the Airline Attendant always tell you in their little spiel before you take off? In the event of a crash, oxygen masks will drop from the compartments above your seats. Please put your oxygen mask on first before assisting other passengers. Why? Quite simply because you cannot help anyone else if you have passed out.

When people are angry with you, they often will accusingly call you selfish, intending it as an insult, when what they are really saying is that they are not pleased with your selfishness because they were trying to be selfish by making you put them first in front of you. Now they are angry because it did not work! Do you see how hypocritical this is? Yet many of us fall for it every time out of guilt.

Guilt is a useless toxic emotion in and of itself. If you know you are going to feel bad about something, the solution is simple. Don’t do it. Feeling bad and dwelling on something as an afterthought, when the action is in the past and cannot be changed, doesn’t help you or anyone else.

Negative thoughts are toxic.

I mean that very literally. They are dangerous to your emotional well being and your physical health. It is imperative that we let go of guilt as well as working on forgiveness – the forgiveness of self and forgiveness of others. Forgiveness is one of the best things you can do for yourself.  Anger, allowing it to stew and holding onto a grudge doesn’t hurt the person you are mad at, it hurts you. Forgive others not for their benefit but for yours. However, if it’s on a subconscious level, how do we access that and figure out the root cause of our particular challenge?

One of the leading and respected authors on the subject of the mind-body connection is Louise L. Hay. Her acclaimed book “Body Talk” is an unmatched investigational resource for linking specific ailments to the emotional root attachment, as well as giving life-affirming mantras to help realign the energy in a positive way, which in turn brings about healing.

In “Body Talk”, Louise gives you a virtual alphabetical listing of ailments from:

Acne – which stems from the root cause of “Not accepting the self. Dislike of the self” which makes perfect sense as to why this is an affliction during the turbulent teen years when you are just starting to know yourself and get comfortable in your own skin. To help heal the issue, the daily recommended mantra is “I am a Divine expression of life. I love and accept myself where I am right now.”

The book also delves into more dangerous manifestations like cancer, which at the soul root comes from “Deep hurt. Long-standing resentment. Deep secrets or grief eating away at the self. Carrying hatreds. A feeling of ‘what’s the use?’” The mantra to get your thoughts back on the right path according to Ms. Hay is “I lovingly forgive and release all of the past. I choose to fill my world with joy. I love and approve of myself.” I highly recommend this book as a staple in your home library collection for frequent use.

This is confirmed as well by Dr. Ryke Geerd Hamer in his book “New Medicine, and Healing Cancer & Your Mind”. He says, “Failing to take action to solve long-standing life conflicts in the inner worlds, cancer is known as the ‘butterfly disease’. Like a butterfly, the cancer patient has to struggle to break out of the ‘cocoon’ of their disease or die in the attempt. More often than not, the cancer ‘victim’ has a pattern of long-standing life problems that have been ‘eating them up inside’.

Their inability or unwillingness to effectively deal with these problems is what created the cancerous cocoon to begin with. Often, cancer is the manifestation of the person’s conflicting desires to escape the situation and to ‘keep things as they are’ because change is too scary or painful. Cancer becomes the means of escape that many take by doing nothing to stop it from leading them to a final solution.”

Once you understand these concepts it starts to become a little easier to see where one’s own thought and action patterns have played into the current dilemma. The other thing to consider is if you believe in reincarnation and pre-birth planning, you may have very well agreed to experience this illness for your own personal growth.

Illness always has a purpose. Illness is meant to propel you on a journey of the inner self that you may have not taken otherwise. When you get stuck in the day-to-day — filling your time with work, drudgery and tasks, you are often not caring for yourself properly. Your energy is not aligned with your higher self, causing split energy. This can be exhausting making you feel run down, tired, depressed and even sick. When you are in alignment, your energy body and your physical body move freely and almost effortlessly together.

When you feel “in the flow”, which is sometimes referred to as being “in right brain mode”, you may experience sensations like a feeling time has stood still, or the opposite, that time has just flown by – hence the expression “time flies when you’re having fun!” Things come easily to you and without much effort. You feel harmonious and peaceful and happy. Artists often thought to operate from the right side of the brain experience this when working on their craft. Writers are a wonderful example as well. When a writer is in the flow, the vortex, working in right brain mode, whatever you choose to call it — words come easily. Thoughts spill out on to the page with seeming effortlessness, but when they are out of alignment, they are at odds and pull against each other.  It is experienced as a “writer’s block”, a stifling of creative energy, and oftentimes frustration soon follows. The more you try and force it, the more frustrated you get. This happens with sleep as well! Nights when you cannot fall asleep, what’s happening is that you are not allowing yourself to drift off “into alignment.”

So what can you do to get into alignment?

Anything that makes you feel even just a little better is helpful. Be kind to yourself. Do things that make you feel good, that make you happy. Make time for yourself, even if it’s only a quick 15 minutes stolen away in a bubble bath.

Soothing yourself into alignment is the most important job you as a healthy happy human have!

Who is this “higher self” I keep referring to anyway? It is you, just not the physical you. It is the level of your consciousness that resides in the ether watching over you, helping to guide you (if you will listen). It is “that little voice” that we all have. It is the pure energy, pure love version of yourself and you are magnificent if you will just open up to it and allow.

This is all very interesting, but what about my cancer?

Words are powerful. Each one has a power and magic held in its vibration that is uniquely its own. For this reason, I suggest not taking ownership and calling it “my cancer”. That implies it will be making itself comfortable putting its feet up and staying a while, which it most certainly will not! “This too shall pass” is another wonderful mantra to say daily.

Monitoring your thoughts and becoming more positive takes time and practice. But your body really does respond to your thoughts so make them count and think good ones! Tell your body that you love and appreciate it. (Yes, you may feel silly, even downright stupid doing some of this at first. Just humor me.) Go stand in the mirror. Look at yourself and say “I love you. You are a wonderful body and I am thankful you are mine.” If you are really brave, do it naked.

Think to yourself. “I am healthy, I am well.” “Every day in every way I am getting better and better and better.” “Everything I eat turns to health and beauty”, and so on. If you catch yourself thinking something negative – celebrate! For that is a wonderful sign of progress. It means you are becoming aware!

Use these as opportunities and as a tool to clear old negative programming and replace it with new, fresh, better for you thoughts, when you do. Be easy on yourself. No one gets this 100% right just out of the gate.

When you notice a negative thought, simply stop. Say “Cancel, cancel, cancel” and then replace it with a more positive one. For example, if the thought crept into your mind,, “Ugh, I feel so lazy and tired.” say out loud or in your head, “cancel, cancel, cancel” and replace it with something along the lines of “Every day I have more and more energy.” After a while, you will no longer need to say or think the cancel part. It is merely a tool that helps you direct your thoughts as you can’t actually retract thoughts back in from the Universe. That would be exhausting and, quite frankly, a misdirection of focus. You can, however, correct them and make the good ones the ones that count! A positive thought is vastly more powerful than a negative one.

Visualization is another incredibly powerful tool. When you picture yourself…do not see yourself as ill. Always see yourself as well. Picture what you want, not what you currently are. You are your very own work of art, so sculpt away!

This is easier for some of us than others. Some have visual imaginations and when someone says to you, “picture this”, you see images in your mind’s eye. For others who are not naturally kinesthetically visual, this can be a frustrating task.

When we say, “see yourself as well”, you don’t get a picture in your head, so what do you do? Let’s make it a tactile and tangible thing instead. Even for those of us who can “see it”, this is a wonderful (and fun) thing to do. So go find some paper, scissors, glue and your very favorite picture of yourself where you are in a good state of health. Grab a travel magazine or Better Homes and Gardens or something of the like and a nice cold glass of lemonade or a warm steamy comforting cup of tea – whatever makes you happiest.

Sit down in your favorite spot and cut and paste the old fashioned way. First, cut your happy healthy picture of you out of its background. Now, find a picture in a magazine or pictures if you like, that represents to you happiness, health, comfort, fun and love. Choose things you would like to be surrounded by in your life. Colors, images, people, places and things that make you feel alive and the food you love to eat. Tear them from their binding and snip away! Glue or paste them on to a piece of paper, cardboard, or a canvas and put yourself, happy, right in the middle of it all. You are the star in your own life after all!

There are no rules, no right way or wrong way. Your art should be as one of a kind as you are. Once this masterpiece is finished and dry, hang it somewhere in your home where you will see it every single day. This will help you see yourself as you truly are and will be…. Well!

So far these are all conscious actions I have asked you to take, but what about the subconscious? If that is really who is running the show alongside the higher self, how do I get in touch with them? Do they have email?

While that would be lovely, it’s not quite the way it works. Although, accessing your subconscious is not as difficult as one might think. This is where meditation comes in handy.

Meditation is the silencing of the mind in order to connect with your higher self, subconscious, the Universe or God. Meditation can be done by anyone, anywhere, at any time. It just takes focus and practice. And the good news is that all you need is you.

There are varied schools of thought on specific meditation techniques, but all have the same universal elements in common.

1. Find a peaceful, quiet location where you can sit or lay unbothered or interrupted for a length of time. 15 minutes minimum and there is no maximum.

2. Pick a position you will be comfortable in for an extended length of time. It can be lying down, sitting up, or for more advanced students, even standing or walking. Please try to always keep your spine straight, as this is your major energy channel.

3. Set the mood. Candles, incense, music or sounds – anything that helps you personally relax. It is important not to have the television or radio on during this, as it is constantly advertising to you and attempting to influence your subconscious for its own gain.

4. Most importantly, set your intention to be open. Let go of the surroundings, of any distractions, and bring your focus inward. Setting your intention just means to decide in your own mind that this (fill in your intention here) is what you want/are choosing for yourself.

When you first meditate you will likely find your mind wandering. Our minds tend to be full of things we need to do, are considering, things people have said and so on. The mind is like a 3-year-old who has been given multiple shots of espresso. It’s ok, don’t let this frustrate you. Allow the thoughts to come and go and as they do, breathe deeply. Do this over and over again until you begin to feel a sense of lightness to your physical body.

There are many breathing methods that can be used. The one I feel works best is: as you begin to relax, breathe in deeply and slowly. Hold that breath as long as it is comfortable and then slowly release. Repeat this 10-20 times. Focusing on your breathing helps you have something to concentrate on besides actual words that come into your head.

When beginning to meditate, sometimes a completely clear and quiet mind seems too much of an unreachable goal. It is less daunting to start with a mantra. A mantra is a set of powerful keywords to focus on. Repeat them in your mind over and over. This helps to hold the space in your thoughts without being bombarded with your grocery list or worries about work.

Being general is a good way to begin. For example, “I allow and release all that is no longer in my best and highest interest with ease and grace.” Make sure you keep the “with ease and grace” portion in there. In this manner, things will go far more smoothly for you. Feel free to modify your own personal mantra to fit you. There are no hard and fast rules for meditation as we are all unique entities, in and of ourselves. Some things that work well for one may not be right for another and vice versa.

Music is also a wonderful way to help guide your focus. It takes you out of content and puts you into content – out of the linear and into the non-linear.  The best choices are those without actual lyrics, as words will guide your mind in a particular direction – distracting you from your own thoughts, images and impressions. Crystal bowl music, soft chanting, mellow instrumental; the choice is very much personal preference.

Guided meditations are also fantastic and highly recommended for beginners and are also beneficial for advanced meditative students as well. They take you on a journey through use of guided imagery and sound. They can be tremendously beneficial as you can choose what you would like to experience by topic and genre. It is important to choose a guide whose voice resonates comfortably with you. Having listened to several, if the person’s voice is at all irritating to you, it just won’t work as that is all you are able to focus on. Simply stop the audio, and choose another one.

It seems that most of the information out there on meditation is focused on the how. There is very little written on meditative experiences themselves and what you may encounter. So lets delve into that realm, shall we?

I’m sure that, to many, all of this seems very abstract in concept. Talking to your higher self and so forth. When it comes to intuitive endeavors, everyone experiences them a little differently. There are primarily four avenues to experience this connection through, though most people tend to be a mix of the four rather than just one singular expression.

Visual – They see pictures and colors and images in their minds eye.

Sensory – Sensory oriented people experience things by feeling them physically.

Auditory – these people may hear actual words or voices and sounds.

Clairvoyant – Clairvoyants simply have a sense of intuitively knowing. This goes for meditation as well.

As you start to meditate, set your intention for that particular session. Ask for guidance on a question or subject. Ask for healing. Ask for release. If you have a medical diagnosis or condition already such as cancer, ask for healing and for the tumor to be dissolved and leave your body easily and painlessly. You can do this out loud or quietly to yourself in your head. Whatever you are more comfortable with and feels right to you is the appropriate choice.

Consciously visualize or concentrate on the area of your body that needs healing. Picture it surrounded in a bright white healing light. Picture the tumor breaking down and being washed away. See it leaving your body. Setting your intent through meditation and visualization is much like tossing a penny into a wishing well. First, you must concentrate. Then, toss and let it go. Then just allow your mind to quiet. You will be surprised what comes up for you.

The experience:

The music plays or the guide on the audio meditation begins. As you start breathing deeply you begin to feel a lightness about you. You can feel your body starting to relax and soften. You may sometimes notice a sinking feeling as if you are floating downward within yourself. Breathing becomes easier and even your facial muscles start to relax. You may feel the first effects in the palms of your hands or the temples and crown of your head as a light tingling or pulsing.  It is very pleasant.

It is normal for these sensations to come and go throughout the meditation. Beneath your closed eyelids you may see changing colors, patterns, or even vivid images. Just let them come without judgment, analysis or question. Some will strike you as important while others will be just passing flickers like frames from a movie.

Breathe and think to yourself, “I allow. I am open.” It is likely you will feel an increase in energy as you do so.  You may also feel different sensations and there is no limit to these and what you may experience. Some examples would be feeling like water droplets are falling on you, hands touching you, feeling like you are weightless, or being lifted. You might also experience sharp little weird pin pokes, pressure on the crown of your head and so on. You may also have muscle twitches that are involuntary. These are releases of built up, previously blocked energy. All of these experiences are uniquely yours. Experience them openly knowing that you are safe always.

In all cases, you will only experience and see what you are ready to. Your higher self will never throw you in the deep end of the pool just to see if you sink. In some cases, you may even experience visions or a sense of reliving scenes from a past life. Just allow it to come and breathe through it. Crying and intense emotion are not at all unusual. This is a great release as these are things held on to for such a long time, even from lifetime to lifetime. When personally translated, they are also often found to have a direct correlation to the current life and often allow for healing in the present tense.

How do you use this technique to keep you healthy?

In our modern society, the body to spirit connection is often overlooked. To be truly healthy, it’s a two-sided coin. You can eat all the right foods and work out, taking all the supplements in the world, but if you aren’t spiritually healthy it’s not complete. This works in reverse as well. You can meditate until the cows come home, but if you never use your body physically, it will soon soften and deteriorate. Balance is key in all things, but especially so in health.

By cleansing and unclogging your spirit (through the establishment of connection) you are opening up the channel from the physical self to the higher self for better, more open, communication and a more complete YOU. This allows a flow of energy, which is incredibly healing. Think of meditation as spiritual Drano.

Automatic writing is another tremendously useful technique that requires only you, a pen or pencil, paper and a little bit of quiet time. Set aside between 15 minutes to an hour. This is sometimes also referred to as Trance Writing because it is directed by spirit or your subconscious. It doesn’t matter what you write. Just start writing. Keep your mind as clear as possible. Anything at all that comes into your head: symbols, words – jot it down and keep writing as fast as you can. Try not to consciously write anything and never correct or rewrite. If you get to a pause, start a new line and write whatever letter comes to your mind first and go from there. This is total free association. Allowing yourself to be receptive during this is key. When you sit down to write state your intent to allow thoughts and feelings to flow. To allow whatever needs to come out to do so at this time. You will be amazed at the words that will spill out on to the page that you were not even aware you had been thinking about. It may take a few times. Be patient with yourself. When you do start getting results, try asking a question before starting. There are no hard and fast rules. This is about as free flowing as it gets! For an additional twist, try doing this exercise with your less dominant hand (if you are right-handed, use your left or if you are left-handed use your right hand).

For something a little more directed, another very interesting audio course I discovered is “Overcoming Self Sabotage” by Debbie Ford. Debbie Ford, the creator of The Shadow Process, is an internationally recognized expert in the field of personal transformation. A pioneering force in incorporating the study and integration of the shadow into modern psychological and spiritual practices, Debbie’s work is based on the core belief that outer transformation occurs when we experience an internal shift in perception.

This course can be found online at .

If you are not moving steadily in the direction of what you say you want, you can be certain that you are sabotaging yourself somewhere. In this on-line course from #1 New York Times best-selling author Debbie Ford, you will learn 14 key lessons to help you overcome self-sabotage.

As we come to understand the mechanisms and patterns that underlie self-sabotage, we begin to free ourselves. We begin to allow ourselves to interact with ourselves and the world with greater success, joy, and fulfillment. Overcoming self-sabotage and finding the wisdom inside the wounds you’ve endured is one of the most important conversations you’ll ever have with yourself. Honor it and know that it will change your life.

This 8 week course contains powerful lessons every 4 days that includes specific information about how to overcome different aspects of self-sabotage, a new audio guided meditation each lesson to help you directly access your innate wisdom, and tangible action steps to help you take the steps in order to release the past and step into a new level of consciousness.


Overcoming Self Sabotage

Taking Inventory of Your Biggest Life Lessons

Breaking Through Toxic Emotions

Discovering Your Unmet Needs

Breaking the Trance of Denial

Maybe You’re Just Hurt

Uncovering Unconscious Patterns

Feeling Safe in the Face of Fear

The Destruction of Hidden Rage

Are Your Excuses Keeping You Stuck?

The Gifts of Standing in Your Power

The Sacred State of Surrender

Making Peace with Your Pain

Healing the Split Between Ego and Spirit

This is indeed a transformational course. I never considered myself to be particularly self-sabotaging, nor did I think after much of the self-awareness trainings I had done I had much left to uncover.

Looking back I see how naive I was. Through the 8 weeks of this course, I uncovered things I had no idea I was still mad about (or indeed had ever actually been mad about in the first place), frustrated over or deeply saddened because of going all the way back to age 4. It helped me not only uncover these issues, but see how they translated into the way I viewed and related to the world, as well as ultimately heal them for me.

Along the road of self-awareness and discovery, there will always be those who declare themselves Masters or Guru’s in their chosen fields. You can, of course, gain much knowledge from some of them and it is wonderful to have someone as a guide. However, be assured there is nothing that they are doing that you, yourself, are not able to do with practice and time. There is no need to feel intimidated by their accomplishments. We are all special and we are all connected. We never need to measure our lives by any other – all paths are unique and not one is better than another. By being open you take the first step.

There is never any need to judge your life or gains by anyone else’s standards as we are all on our own track.

Trust in the Universe that you are loved, supported and always in the right place where you need to be at that current time. You, my dear human, are the most perfect version of you that you have ever been. Right here, right now, and you are getting better and better every day. The sooner you realize and believe this, the sooner you will be back to health.

Stay Tuned for Part 3!
This was originally published as an ebook but as I felt this was very important for people to hear I am blogging it for free.

Cancer – Taking Back Your Power | Part 1

“You have cancer”… This has to be among the most dreaded phrases in the English language.

A diagnosis of cancer is something you always think of as happening to someone else, but what if it did happen to you? 
What would you do?
How would you react?
What happens now?
Questions race through your mind.

The room starts to spin and you now are no longer hearing or are even capable of listening to anything the doctor is telling you, as your thoughts turn inward in shock.
Why me?
How did this happen?

Your world feels very surrealistic; everything you knew seems to be fading away and you want to run screaming.
Your loved ones are there, trying to comfort you, but they don’t understand. Not really. After all, it’s not them that just got this death sentence handed down. Fear and sadness wash over you as the uncertainty of what is to come starts to settle in and feel a little more tangible.

You tune back in as you hear the word chemotherapy.
“I’m sorry, what?” you say, trying to pull yourself back into reality and focus on what you are being told.

You now are faced with a choice. A choice in what you choose to believe. A choice in what you think, feel and will experience from here on out. You have always had this choice, though maybe you were not aware of it.

Your current reality is an echo, a reflection of past choices, beliefs and actions. These thought patterns and life choices have gotten you to where you are today. But far more important is the looming question “Where will you be tomorrow?” This is likely the most important question you will ever ask yourself.

Where do I want to be tomorrow?

Society has trained us to believe that we, the patient, are powerless over cancer, and our bodies in general and healing can only take place through modern medicine and with complete trust in your medical doctor. Nothing could be further from the truth.
These human bodies are miraculous marvellous electrical machines and you, my dear fellow human being, are the heart and soul of the operation. You are in charge of every living cell. You are a symphony of electrical impulse and ever-changing, ever regenerating life. It is now time for you to pick up that baton and conduct!

Doctors can act as facilitators, pointing you in the right direction and acting as guides (given that you have a good, knowledgeable and noble doctor who cares more about your health than medical politics). The field of Psychoneuroimmunology is the study of how the mind affects the body. “Psycho” refers to your thinking, emotions and mood states. “Neuro” refers to the neurological and neuroendocrine systems in your body. “Immunology” refers to your cellular structures and immune system. A good doctor will understand this connection and take it into consideration and work with you on healing the whole you…. but, when it comes down to it, the only person who can actually heal you, who can cure your cancer, is you.

That will have been a scary statement for many of you. If your choice is to live… to thrive… and to become whole and healthy again, it’s one you must accept, believe, and dedicate your self completely too.

Norman Cousins, Former Editor of the Saturday Review of Literature once said “The ancient idea that attitudes play a vital part in the recovery process is finding systematic verification in current medical research. There is little doubt about the fact that fear is a great accelerator of disease. Conversely, hope, faith, confidence and the will to live set an auspicious stage for efforts toward recovery.”

Taking back your power is the single most tremendously important step towards health. You must make a conscious decision that you are healthy. Not that you will be healthy, as the future never comes. We live in the present and it must be stated in the present tense.

The body regenerates itself on a cellular level constantly. You are, in fact, creating your own body with your thoughts along with the food you eat and the water you consume.

The way we think and speak is powerful. 
“I AM not feeling well”, “I AM afraid.” “I have cancer.” And so on.
Our system is constantly producing new cells and trying its best to rejuvenate itself conforming to your commands.
The cells take in your energy and thoughts and that can create a sick state of being. On top of it we are stating it in the highest vibrational form possible by using the words “I AM”. We believe that we are ill; when in truth it is our body trying to communicate with us, to make us aware that something is wrong. That part of our thinking, and sometimes our actions as well, need to change.

Cancer is not a disease of the body. It is a disease of the mind and spirit that manifests itself physically in the body. It did not originate from sunblock, the food you ate, the air you breathed in, or any outside source. Though many of these things certainly are antagonizing and contributing factors.

There have been documented cases that prove this mind-body connection. Some are so dramatic that they are hard to ignore. Some of the most dramatic have been cases where someone housing multiple personalities, where one of which has severe food allergies or insulin-dependent diabetes, who when expressing another personality exhibits none of these physical problems.

One study conducted by Steven Greer was reported in several sources, such as “The Type C Connection” by Lydia Temoshok and Henry Dreher. He interviewed women three months after they had mastectomies and divided them into four groups according to their psychological coping style:
(1) those with a “fighting spirit” who accepted the diagnosis, adopted an optimistic attitude, sought information and were determined to fight the disease
(2) the “positive avoiders” who either rejected the diagnosis or minimized its seriousness
(3) the “stoics” who accepted the diagnosis but did not seek further information and adopted a fatalistic attitude
(4) the “helpless and hopeless” whose lives were preoccupied with cancer and dying.

At the end of five years, only 20% of the “helpless and hopeless” group were alive and disease free. This compared with 32% of the “stoics”, 70% of the “positive avoiders” and a full 80% of the “fighting spirit” group. A 10-year follow-up indicated that a “fighting spirit” was still significantly associated with a better prognosis.

All cancers are caused by excess stress in some form and misaligned or blocked thinking and energy, whether it is conscious or subconscious. To truly be cured, the root cause must be released and irradiating. It is not the answer. 

Well… You may think to yourself, “That sounds simple enough. Stop stressing out.
Seriously? I have just been told I have cancer, how on earth am I supposed to stop stressing out?
Lord, this is a stupid blog…”

Just hang in there, I promise to get to the how.

We have established that you are in charge of yourself and your health. We have established that only you have the power to heal yourself. Many of us have become vastly disconnected from our own higher self, and even distanced from how we really feel here in our physical form.

Feelings were intended to be our own internal guidance system. When one is in tune with their feelings, it seems only natural to act on and trust your intuition or inner voice that we all have without question. I know from personal experience that when I choose not to listen to that inner direction, almost always without fail, it leads me to trouble.

Our modern society puts so much value and pressure on conforming to a societal standard of what is considered to be “normal”, where feeling down, depressed, frustrated or mad and exhibiting emotions are no longer considered acceptable, it seems we are not allowing ourselves to really feel or process our emotions any longer.

Dr. Ronald Dworkin tells the story of a woman who didn’t like the way her husband was handling the family finances. She was very stressed out and wanted to start keeping the books herself but didn’t want to insult her husband. The doctor suggested she try an antidepressant to make herself feel better. She took the antidepressant, and she did feel better, said Dr. Dworkin, a Maryland anesthesiologist and senior fellow at Washington’s Hudson Institute, who told the story in his book “Artificial Unhappiness: The Dark Side of the New Happy Class.” In the meantime, Dworkin says, the woman’s husband led the family into financial ruin. “Doctors are now medicating unhappiness,” said Dworkin. “Too many people take drugs when they really need to be making changes in their lives.”

If you watch TV at all these days you have undoubtedly seen the numerous drug commercials for this pill and that, touting that they will cure your depression while showing you pictures of happy, successful, healthy looking men and women dancing, playing golf and spending time with their beautiful children. If you turn the sound off, these ads seem miraculous! Just pop this pill and your world will be exactly as you wish! You will feel wonderful and all will be well!

Yet we tell our children “Drugs are bad, Don’t do drugs.” – quite the hypocritical society we live in these days. Of course, if you turn the volume back up what you hear is a terrifying list of side effects far worse in many cases than the original condition, up to and including a risk of suicidal thoughts and even death.
How exactly is that better than depression?

It is health and emotional care strategies like these that encourage us to stifle our emotions, blocking your true wisdom and the true I AM presence of the self. Medication absolutely can make you feel better temporarily. I am not disputing that. The problem is that it is simply a delaying tactic. The feelings do not actually go anywhere and you will have to deal with them at some point in one form or another… and trust me, as hard as it is to feel some of them, it is far better to sit with your feelings, feel them, acknowledge them for what they are, release them and be done with it.

Think of it in terms of a time in your life when you have been mad at someone. If you choose not to say anything and not to confront them and talk it out, what happens? It festers. You think about it over and over, imagining what you might say, what they might say, getting yourself more and more riled up till you explode in a far bigger expression than it ever needed to be in the first place. It never “just goes away.”

It is stifling of emotions – which in their own form become toxic, which cause stress and in turn makes you sick, sometimes manifesting itself in the form of cancer among a whole host of other ailments.

By medicating with prescription drugs or self-medicating with street drugs or alcohol for that matter, you also open yourself up to the possibility of a whole host of side physical effects ranging from mildly uncomfortable and temporary to debilitating and permanent, up to and including death. Not to mention the “side effects” they may have on your mental and emotional states as well as your relationships with other people. It is not easy from the outside to deal with someone who is inebriated – be it on pills (prescription or otherwise) or alcohol when in excess. Damage can be done and relationships may suffer, further hampering a healthy recovery.

The goal of life really IS to feel good, and live in the now but it cannot be done artificially and still produce real lasting and healthy results.

Stay tuned for part 2!
*This was originally released in ebook form but I strongly feel this information needs to be heard more quickly so I am publishing here free of charge.

You know your healed when…

Music is powerful. It’s one of the things on earth that has a profound effect on all of us. Songs have meaning. When we go through a transition in life that is traumatic or painful we often relate to certain songs. They illicit feelings and emotions we may not want to face or deal with. Yet every time that certain song or songs come on, it rips that band-aid right off again.

Its said that time heals all wounds. That’s semi-true. I think you also need to actively work on letting stuff go. You know you are on the right track to healing and moving forward when you can listen to the same songs that were once heart wrenching and not feel that internal awful tug but instead just appreciate it as music once again.

Life is about growth and progress. This is just an interesting marker.